How do you stay smooth/cool and keep from getting flustered when meeting a girl?

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

First off, I know there are gonna be some girls on here who are gonna say "some girls will like it if a guy gets all bashful and flustered around her :love:" JUST STOP IT RIGHT THERE!

 

That is absolutely not the case.

 

Most guys, when they become flustered around a girl, don't become "cute." More often then not, he becomes awkward and the girl becomes uncomfortable.

 

So when a guy is meeting for a girl for the first time and senses that he likes her and wants to get to know her better, how does he stay sharp, cool, smooth and keep from getting flustered and awkward?

[USMCHokie]

So when a guy is meeting for a girl for the first time and senses that he likes her and wants to get to know her better, how does he stay sharp, cool, smooth and keep from getting flustered and awkward?

 

 

Practice + Failure = Experience.

 

Experience x Time = Confidence.

 

Confidence = Success.

[skydiveaddict]

The whole key to it is to have a few drinks first. Nothing beats a little courage in a bottle. It will help expedite Hokie's formula for success

Edited May 19, 2010 by skydiveaddict

[TheBigQuestion]

I'm going to answer your question with a question:

 

How many threads can you make about exactly the same subject until it becomes irritating?

 

Here's the answer: I don't remember exactly when, but it already happened numerous threads ago.

[Kaplan]

I'm probably not that smooth so maybe I'm not qualified to answer the question, but one thing I've noticed is that you can't be wondering about the outcome. If you're thinking about what she thinks of you or where things will lead than that's going to screw you up.

 

When I think back on what I was like when I wasn't comfortable talking to girls, I think there was this thing where I was trying to imagine what I looked like while I was talking to her. I think that was what made it hard. For me, anyway.

 

It also helps to be an egomaniac like me. I assume that any girl would be flattered to think that I was attracted to her.

[Philetus]

You can't tie your ego to the outcome. You have to have the attitude that it matters very little if it works out or not. That attitude is very powerful and, with so little riding on the outcome, removes all the pressure.

 

How you do that is up to you. Some people, like me, are very fit and athletic so we have a very positive self image. I have the attitude that ANY single woman would want to date me. I believe that, so it turns out to be rather true. Therefore, I know if this woman says, 'no', there's another woman just around the corner.

 

Believe in your soul that if she turns you down, it has NOTHING to do with you. It's either her problem (ie she's taken) or you're not compatible. When you approach a woman you don't know if she's having a ****ty day, has a boyfriend, or a dozen other things. We assume rejection is because of us, but we may never really know. My default is to assume it has nothing to do with me.

 

Sometimes, denial is a wonderful thing.