Cinderella7 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Last night I went on a blind date. We were set up by mutual friends. I think it went pretty well. For two complete strangers, we had plenty to talk about and "meeting for a drink" turned into a second round and 2.5 hours talking. A couple of times, particularly when he asked me career or school related questions, he mentioned that I was "impressive". Once he even remarked that he could tell that I was going to "go places" in my life. Is this a good thing? Or could he see me as intimidating or too over the top and career focused? He's very smart and has a great career of his own, if it matters. When we parted ways, he said he was going out of town for work the next day but would call when he got back later this week. I'm not sure if I like him yet, but I would like to see him again to figure out.
Nantes Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 It irks me when a guy says something about me is "impressive"...... um, I'm not trying to impress you, bud.
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 (. . .) A couple of times, particularly when he asked me career or school related questions, he mentioned that I was "impressive". Once he even remarked that he could tell that I was going to "go places" in my life. Is this a good thing? Or could he see me as intimidating or too over the top and career focused? He's very smart and has a great career of his own, if it matters. Yes, it matters. basically, he's saying that your ideals, standards and future plans are in line with his. he's not going to be interested in a wimpyish little wallflower who wants kittens, (not cats) roses round the door and a pot roast in the oven, at 6.30pm sharp.... he needs someone adventurous and challenging. My partner told me that I was "Interesting". He said it very definitively, in front of other people, and made it quite a declaration. His dad told me I had him hooked. He hates boring people, but I obviously stimulated his interest. here we are, 6 years later...... When we parted ways, he said he was going out of town for work the next day but would call when he got back later this week. I'm not sure if I like him yet, but I would like to see him again to figure out. This, to me is a bit of a red flag. If you have to figure out whether you like him or not - then I'm worried about an initial spark being absent. Deeper feelings are difficult to develop if things are 'unsure'. I have to say, I felt the tingle the first time I met my guy and had a conversation with him..... Maybe things will develop. maybe he will hit the right buttons. but if after this - "For two complete strangers, we had plenty to talk about and "meeting for a drink" turned into a second round and 2.5 hours talking". - you're still wondering how you feel about him - my guess is that it's not as deep as he's feeling. He wants to see you again. I think he's excited about the prospect, and mutual friends obviously thought that there would be a spark, or they wouldn't have set it up. But somehow, I don't get the feeling you're as sure as he is, that there was.....
PersonMan Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I think its a good thing. Most guys want a girl that can do her own thing, and do it well, or really, to echo the above statement, we love a girl whos values and ambitions are admirable and within our own.
Fouts Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I've went on a couple of blind dates where the women had everything going for them, impressive you might say, and gave them many well deserved compliments. But even though they brought alot to the table and were nice looking to boot, I wasn't attracted to them and never initiated another contact. See how it plays out, at least it sounds like you have alot going on for yourself whether this one likes you or not.
hats Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 It irks me when a guy says something about me is "impressive"...... um, I'm not trying to impress you, bud. That sounds unnecessarily defensive.
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Whenever we date someone for the first time, and we like them, of course we're trying to impress them - in some way or another. I would suggest that if someone is overly defensive and of the attitude that "I'm not trying to impress you bud"...then I'd have to ask, 'why you're there then....?' If you impress someone, you must be doing something right..... whether you're "trying to" or not. Shoot it down in flames, why doncha.....?
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