sagirl1891 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Hey all, I've been in an LDR on/off for 2 years. He goes to school in PA, I go to school in NY. We live in different but close states when we're out of school (about an hour away). Recently, my life was pretty hectic with finals. He was done early, so he was able to come into the city to see me. Since then, we've had issues trying to get a sleepover figured out. Things just seem to come up...Recently, I had to cancel because I was done with my first day of work and was EXHAUSTED, so I just went home. I then made plans to sleepover tomorrow night, but my brother needs the car (to get to school). I can only visit him during the day. He's super pissed, but won't come to my house and sleepover here (I offered) because he has a doctor's appt on Thursday morning (so do I). Public transportation would take three hours to get to his house, driving would take 1. He's so hellbent on me sleeping over there, that he got so angry and said he was done talking and hung up. Am I being wrong to "lead him on" by making all these plans (when I didn't even realize I had a doctor's appt on Thursday morning that's been rescheduled 8 times?!)? Or is he being not very understanding?
madjac74 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 It actually might make some of us sick that you are complaining about things when you are only an hour away. You have the option for sleepovers and daily visits and yet you guys get in arguments. If you guys had a real LDR then you wouldnt last a month. Sorry for my shortness but I havent seen my GF in 4 months and she is 14 hours away. We have jobs and kids and a small window to plan visits. Yet I would never hang up on her
thisismystory Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 It actually might make some of us sick that you are complaining about things when you are only an hour away. You have the option for sleepovers and daily visits and yet you guys get in arguments. Haha, word. When my bf and I are LDR, we're 3 to 5 hours apart (depending on traffic). But when we're "proximal", we're still 1.5 hours apart by public transit. My proximal relationship can be considered LDR to some, haha. Or...interboro? But to answer your question, sagirl1981, I don't think you're leading him on by making these plans. You didn't know all these other things will pop up. He could be more understanding but I guess he just really wanted to see you. Maybe you can surprise him one day and just show up, haha. Either way, I'm sure everything will be fine when you guys do finally find time to meet up. Since you guys live an hour away, I'm sure there are plenty of opportunities.
madjac74 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Sorry I dont want to disrespect anyone but not seeing the woman of your dreams for 4 months can make one cranky
madjac74 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Sorry I dont want to disrespect anyone but not seeing the woman of your dreams for 4 months can make one cranky I dont know why that posted twice
TMichaels Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Am I being wrong to "lead him on" by making all these plans (when I didn't even realize I had a doctor's appt on Thursday morning that's been rescheduled 8 times?!)? Or is he being not very understanding? The latter -- most likely because he's horny and immature. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's how his behavior is coming across based on your description. You can try telling him to "grow up" and "take matters into his own hands," but somehow I doubt he'll be happy hearing those suggestions, either... Best, TMichaels
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