marsle85 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I'm not gonna date anyone, not even look for dates, for the next year or 18 months. Focus on your life. Do something fun! Just forget about dating as a part of life for a while. This truthfully can be quite effective and enlightening. Give it a try.
Author OpenGL Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 What about other categories? OpenGL: the truth is, as much as it hurts, POSITIVE people attract other people. It is as simple as it sounds. Maybe you should give up dating for a while. Make it your goal - I'm not gonna date anyone, not even look for dates, for the next year or 18 months. Focus on your life. Do something fun! Just forget about dating as a part of life for a while. I don't know you at all but from reading your posts I've an impression of a jaded, bitter person who doesn't really enjoy life at all. And, perhaps, this is what makes you unattractive? What other categories? Give up dating for awhile? I have tried that, on and off. Focusing on your own things does not yield results despite the cliche. See this thread from awhile back: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t195026/
Lakeside_runner Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 What other categories? Give up dating for awhile? I have tried that, on and off. Focusing on your own things does not yield results despite the cliche. See this thread from awhile back: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t195026/ Well... what was your ultimate goal? If you've focused on your own things to... become "more datable" - that's a fail. Focus on your own things for the sake of yourself. Don't associate this with dating/future dating. Start being happy with your life. Short story: I got out of a 4.5 year long relationship. My world fell apart and for a while I made finding someone else a goal. This was a major fail. Then I just told myself - it's ok to be single. This way I can be all I want to become! It felt so good at that time. You talk to people, you project this aura of happiness and being content with your life. A wonderful girl came along - we dated for a while. It had a lot of potential but it didn't work out since our near future plans were really incompatible. Again - if you read my previous posts here - my world fell apart. But I remembered how I felt before and what to do to achieve it. I pretty much got back to that stage now. I am happy with my life and where it's going. I am gonna run a marathon in three weeks. Would it be nice to have a GF to run it with you? Sure - but I can do it in the future. It's ok. I am gonna do a triathlon in six weeks. Would it be nice to have a GF waiting for you at the finish line? Sure - but it is not my last tri and there is a girl out there who one day will either do it with me or wait at the finish line. It is ok now. Same goes for the Ironman next year. I want to go to Tokyo and practice Aikido (even just for a couple of days) at Hombu Dojo (the main/original school). Would it be nice to have a GF to go with me on that trip? Sure but I don't have one now and it's ok. I have a pretty nice and ordered life with great outlook for the future. Of course I want to share it one day with a wonderful girl. I don't know why but I am sure I am gonna meet her and she will be everything I've thought of and she will be happy to share her happy life with me. Happy people attract people in general... Start being happy!
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