OpenGL Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I just took some pictures of myself in the mirror to get a better picture of what people see when they look at me from the outside and I have to be honest, I look like a clown. It's really no wonder why I don't get anyone attracted to me. I don't even find myself attractive. I thought I was average looking but after looking at the 10 or so pics I took of myself I'd have to downgrade myself a few notches. Seriously, after looking at myself, I don't even know how I got the girlfriends and random women I did. After this revelation I don't even think I can blame women, I'm f'ing ugly. Here is what I noticed: 1. The shape of my face isn't ideal. My chin isn't wide enough my jawline slopes down too early. Top of my head isn't flat enough. 2. My nose is too big for my relatively small head. 3. My hair only looks good shaved because of my receeding hairline. My hair is also nappy as hell so I can't do much with it anyway. 4. I don't have enough vains on my body for being such a low percentage body fat. Only have few vains in my biceps and forearms. 5. I'm too hairy therefore I have razor bumps all over my chest due to exessive shaving. Also have some razor bumps on my abs. 6. My forearms and legs are hairy because I don't shave them (it's considered gay to shave your arms and legs, but being naturally hairless looks better, so I'm screwed). 7. I have a big neck, looks disporpotionate to my face and messed up the way my face looks overall. 8. My skin tone isn't smooth. It also isn't the ideal skin color that hollywood protrays as the standard of beauty (which every woman in america soaks up). There are some others but those are the major ones that stand out the most. Coupled with the fact that I am 5'7, I can definately see where the lack of attraction is coming from. My advice for the (many) others on here that are having problems is to stop complaining a look at yourself in the mirror. You are probably as ugly as me.
EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 This is depressing, and sad. Why don't you start focusing on your more positive qualities, rather than the negative ones?
BobSacamento Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Stop shaving your chest. You'll only attract freaks that way.
Author OpenGL Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 This is depressing, and sad. Why don't you start focusing on your more positive qualities, rather than the negative ones? Depressing, yeah you're telling me. I'm the one with the realization of how ugly I am What do you mean by "focus" on my positive qualities? I am aware I have them, so what? My non-physical positive qualities isn't going to change the way I look.
Yamaha Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Yes. Everyone thinks your just hideous!!!!! Feel better now?
Author OpenGL Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 Stop shaving your chest. You'll only attract freaks that way. For one, I am very fit and musclar so I have large pecs and abs. I am naturally very hairy so if I didn't shave they would litterally dissapear. Long ago (years) I have had very negative comments about my hairy chest from women. I have VERY coarse hair. Now my chest is smooth as a babys ass but scattered with red bumps.
EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Depressing, yeah you're telling me. I'm the one with the realization of how ugly I am What do you mean by "focus" on my positive qualities? I am aware I have them, so what? My non-physical positive qualities isn't going to change the way I look. No, but it'll change your attitude towards everything. Instead of saying, 'i'm ugly', you could say, 'there is a girl out there who will appreciate me for who I am, and the qualities I posess.' But none of that will happen until you change your outlook on everything. Good luck.
Cracker Jack Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I often feel the same, except for the other days where I think I actually look fine. It sucks to not find yourself attractive, though. It really does.
BobSacamento Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 For one, I am very fit and musclar so I have large pecs and abs. I am naturally very hairy so if I didn't shave they would litterally dissapear. Long ago (years) I have had very negative comments about my hairy chest from women. I have VERY coarse hair. Now my chest is smooth as a babys ass but scattered with red bumps. Well what do you do all day walk around with your shirt off? Worry about the things women see every day if you're going to be self conscious about anything. That's what I do haha.
Author OpenGL Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 No, but it'll change your attitude towards everything. Instead of saying, 'i'm ugly', you could say, 'there is a girl out there who will appreciate me for who I am, and the qualities I posess.' But none of that will happen until you change your outlook on everything. Good luck. Yeah, I can walk around happy go lucky or I can live in the real world. You are well aware of my outlook on women, I all but despise them. The only difference now is along with dispising them, I also dispise the way I look. As far as there being a girl to appretiate me for who I am, I am really now to the point where I would dispise her for having standards so low. I don't like the way I look and I actually wouldn't want a girl who was okay with my looks.
Author OpenGL Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 Well what do you do all day walk around with your shirt off? Worry about the things women see every day if you're going to be self conscious about anything. That's what I do haha. Well, the truth is, I don't like it either. I worked on improving my body tremendously the past few years and want my assets clearly visable at all times, not hiding behind a thick layer of hair. Plus I do like the way being hairless feels.
missfrenchie Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Depressing, yeah you're telling me. I'm the one with the realization of how ugly I am What do you mean by "focus" on my positive qualities? I am aware I have them, so what? My non-physical positive qualities isn't going to change the way I look. Maybe not... But being POSITIVE will make you a hell of a lot more attractive to other people than you are now! Being negative about it isn't going to change the way you look either. So how about you work with what you have rather than focusing on what you deem to be unattractive... You can't change the way you look, but you can change your attitude.
tami-chan Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I just took some pictures of myself in the mirror to get a better picture of what people see when they look at me from the outside and I have to be honest, I look like a clown. It's really no wonder why I don't get anyone attracted to me. I don't even find myself attractive. I thought I was average looking but after looking at the 10 or so pics I took of myself I'd have to downgrade myself a few notches. Seriously, after looking at myself, I don't even know how I got the girlfriends and random women I did. After this revelation I don't even think I can blame women, I'm f'ing ugly. Here is what I noticed: 1. The shape of my face isn't ideal. My chin isn't wide enough my jawline slopes down too early. Top of my head isn't flat enough. 2. My nose is too big for my relatively small head. 3. My hair only looks good shaved because of my receeding hairline. My hair is also nappy as hell so I can't do much with it anyway. 4. I don't have enough vains on my body for being such a low percentage body fat. Only have few vains in my biceps and forearms. 5. I'm too hairy therefore I have razor bumps all over my chest due to exessive shaving. Also have some razor bumps on my abs. 6. My forearms and legs are hairy because I don't shave them (it's considered gay to shave your arms and legs, but being naturally hairless looks better, so I'm screwed). 7. I have a big neck, looks disporpotionate to my face and messed up the way my face looks overall. 8. My skin tone isn't smooth. It also isn't the ideal skin color that hollywood protrays as the standard of beauty (which every woman in america soaks up). There are some others but those are the major ones that stand out the most. Coupled with the fact that I am 5'7, I can definately see where the lack of attraction is coming from. My advice for the (many) others on here that are having problems is to stop complaining a look at yourself in the mirror. You are probably as ugly as me. who does this? STOP. Unless you have a big,round, red nose, super huge ears, and wear flappy, oversized boots, you do not look like a clown!
EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Yeah, I can walk around happy go lucky or I can live in the real world. You are well aware of my outlook on women, I all but despise them. The only difference now is along with dispising them, I also dispise the way I look. As far as there being a girl to appretiate me for who I am, I am really now to the point where I would dispise her for having standards so low. I don't like the way I look and I actually wouldn't want a girl who was okay with my looks. Ok, so why do you care what you look like? You aren't trying to impress anyone, why would yourself be any different?
kassy Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 why don't you post a pic, if you really are that hideous I'm sure we might be more symapthetic
EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 why don't you post a pic, if you really are that hideous I'm sure we might be more symapthetic Not if you've read his previous posts. It's all about attitude, a positive one, and that's something that GL lacks. And he refuses to even attempt to get one.
Author OpenGL Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 Ok, so why do you care what you look like? You aren't trying to impress anyone, why would yourself be any different? Simply put, I care about my looks so much because in the real world women judge men primarily on their looks (unless you have obscene amounts of money or are famous). "No, thats not true, women don't primarily care about looks" http://open.salon.com/blog/big_fat_trauma_queen/2010/01/24/online_dating_turned_me_into_a_shallow_superficial_jerk
EricaH329 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Simply put, I care about my looks so much because in the real world women judge men primarily on their looks (unless you have obscene amounts of money or are famous). "No, thats not true, women don't primarily care about looks" http://open.salon.com/blog/big_fat_trauma_queen/2010/01/24/online_dating_turned_me_into_a_shallow_superficial_jerk But I thought you just stated that you despise women? So why would their opinion matter? And you can provide me with all of the internet links, personal experience, etc that you would like. Every woman is different, just as every man is different.
electricity Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 http://www.askmen.com/fashion/trends_100/103_fashion_men.html There are options/advice if you look. Women have to deal with excess hair all the time. Most good looking people aren't born that way - they pay lots of money and spend lots of time to look just so. Welcome to reality. Big noses/necks are all a matter of personal preference. I've heard that people do innately look for symmetry in a mate's face, but other than that, people tend to be drawn towards those who have similar features to themselves. Adrien Brody has a large nose and many women think he's sexy. Channing Tatum and many football players have thick necks and are considered sexy. Your "all but despising" all women attitude and habit of stereotyping is far more unappealing than your looks. For example, I resent being told that "every woman in america soaks up" a particular skin color. I personally dislike tans, which I know many women like, and by far prefer a fair complexion. And seriously, why would any woman date a man who hates all women?
marsle85 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Stop shaving your chest. I don't care how muscular you are. Hairy men are sexy and manly. Sorry, but you must look silly with a shaved chest and arms but hairy legs. I'm down for shaving your head, I think that can be sexy. As for your head shape, skin color, chin lines(?) you can't change any of them. Get over it.
electricity Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Simply put, I care about my looks so much because in the real world women judge men primarily on their looks (unless you have obscene amounts of money or are famous). "No, thats not true, women don't primarily care about looks" http://open.salon.com/blog/big_fat_trauma_queen/2010/01/24/online_dating_turned_me_into_a_shallow_superficial_jerk Seriously? Stop quoting that one article all the time. It was ONE WOMAN. Contrary to your apparently almost fanatical belief, NOT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME. Off topic, marsle85, love the poem in your sig. I had it taped to my wall throughout college.
Green Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 If the man with half a body can go out and get gf's and married ect... SO CAN YOU. Enough of your self hatred, why don't you wake up every day and say I CAN DO THIS... then enjoy your day and just do what you want. Stop worrying about how you look
AD1980 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I feel the same way but as i said im done lookin for women and feel free... The cliche fluff about looks arent important blah bla hblah should be ignored..There just trying to be nice but arent realisitic..its a shallow society
marsle85 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Seriously? Stop quoting that one article all the time. It was ONE WOMAN. Contrary to your apparently almost fanatical belief, NOT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME. Off topic, marsle85, love the poem in your sig. I had it taped to my wall throughout college. Thankyou . I'm a big fan of E.D. and Oscar Wilde. And I'm with Electricity, delete that riffraff article from your favorites. It's time to move on to scientific journals, or books.
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