cruce045 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 About a week ago i confronted my fiance about her relationship with a gf of hers. She admitted to having feelings for her and told me she loves her, she also said the dreaded "I love you but im not in love with you" line. We agreed that we needed to do whatever is right for the kids and remain friends. She gave birth to our son just 4 weeks ago, and we have a 2 yr old daughter. The thought of losing them and her all at once is unbearable. We've had a few long converstions which seem to be mostly me doing the talking and not getting very far into her head. At one point I presented her with a decision and offered to goto counseling, work part time so i could be home more and everything else. She says she doesnt think it can be fixed. Im constantly going back and forth in my mind. One part of me wants to accept the fact that she is done with me and start moving on, work on myself and then maybe she will realize once im gone. The other part of me cant help but think there is hope, that maybe she is just confused or depressed and that she will come around soon. Her mother passed away in December and we just had a baby, its alot to handle and maybe i should just be supportive as possible and wait it out. Or maybe im just allowing her to have her cake by hanging around? She has said things that give me hope and some of her actions seem to tell me that she wants me around, for example I went back to work for the first night since paternity leave and she did nothing but send me text messages all night. However when ive actually tried to talk she seems very positive that she cant be happy with me. Please, any advice or opinion is welcome
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