I wad beginning to do well, then she contacts me after 6 months

[LikeABirdWhoFlew]

I have been apart from my Ex-girlfriend for a total of 8 months now. Well about 2 months ago (after months of no-contact) she e-mails me telling me how the break up is finally hitting her, and how she still loves me, still misses me and how she hopes one day we can finally work things out together.

 

Like a fool, I re-add her onto my facebook and we exchange e-mails about once a week or so. Well, just the other day she tells me "I'm seeing someone new now." I was in total shock and disbelief. I believed what she had written me about wanting to get back together hook, line and sinker. Now when I look back on that e-mail she sent me, I think she was just feeling lonely and knew I was still a fool for her and wanted her ego boosted.

 

Well, today I wrote her what will be my final e-mail to her. I told her, "I believed what you had told me a few months ago, now you tell me you are with someone new and I just can't handle that. It would impossible for us to be just friends."

 

I almost feel like I did on day one of our breakup. Like all those months of recovery from her never existed.

 

Any words of wisdom or advice?

 

Thanks,

D

[skydiveaddict]

I feel bad for you dude. Just take away a lesson from this. Dont ever contact her again. She's being intentionally cruel to lead you on like that and then tell you about her new bf. I'm sorry but she's a spoiled brat who enjoys working other people's emotions. good luck to ya

[CLC2008]

I have been apart from my Ex-girlfriend for a total of 8 months now. Well about 2 months ago (after months of no-contact) she e-mails me telling me how the break up is finally hitting her, and how she still loves me, still misses me and how she hopes one day we can finally work things out together.

 

Like a fool, I re-add her onto my facebook and we exchange e-mails about once a week or so. Well, just the other day she tells me "I'm seeing someone new now." I was in total shock and disbelief. I believed what she had written me about wanting to get back together hook, line and sinker. Now when I look back on that e-mail she sent me, I think she was just feeling lonely and knew I was still a fool for her and wanted her ego boosted.

 

Well, today I wrote her what will be my final e-mail to her. I told her, "I believed what you had told me a few months ago, now you tell me you are with someone new and I just can't handle that. It would impossible for us to be just friends."

 

I almost feel like I did on day one of our breakup. Like all those months of recovery from her never existed.

 

Any words of wisdom or advice?

 

Thanks,

D

 

My only words of advice would be for you to delete her at this juncture and focus on healing.

 

My only words of wisdom are from experience and that I shared a similar one.

 

Not fun.

[Ruby Slippers]

What a bitch. That really sucks. Hopefully she is dead to you now.

[LikeABirdWhoFlew]

Well she just e-mailed me back telling me that she meant what she said to me a few months ago and didn't expect to fall for someone new. She had the nerve to tell me that she thought love didn't really exist and her new boyfriend is changing her mind about that. She told me she now believes in love again because of her new boyfriend.

 

She told me she will always be there for me if I ever needed anything and if I ever felt lost in life. Well, I have never felt as lost in my entire life as I do right now and she isn't here for me, she is with her new boyfriend who she says "...is so smart."

 

I have become so depressed since this all happened that I don't even get out of bed in the morning for hours after I wake up. I currently do not have a job and no health insurance so when I wake up in the morning I am so morbidly depressed I wish I was dead.

 

I don't understand how she could do this. We were engaged, planned on having kids, even picked names out for our future kids. Now she tells me she fell for someone new and he is showing her how to love again. WTF?!?

 

I'm sorry, but I think she is a selfish, spoiled brat bitch and I hope Karma comes to bite her in the ass someday soon.

 

Thanks for listening,

D

[monkeymaid]

dude, im right here with you. ...just keep breathing. you will pull out again. ...read this. ...its by Rudyard Kipling

 

If

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,

Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,

And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

 

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;

If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with triumph and disaster

And treat those two imposters just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,

And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breath a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on"; If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -

Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,

And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

[LikeABirdWhoFlew]

Hey thanks everybody for the words of advice and encouragement. It really means a lot to me to hear from you guys/girls. I feel so alone and just knowing that other people on Love Shack are going through the same sort of stuff is helpful to me in thinking that in reality I am not alone.

 

You guys/girls are all awesome,

D

[northstar1]

How incredibly selfish. She basically wanted to have another branch to jump to (You) in case it didnt' work out with the new guy. Someone like that can't be alone, and always needs validation.

 

Sorry that happened.

[LikeABirdWhoFlew]

You hit the nail right on the head. Since my ex was 12 years old (she is 24 now) she has ALWAYS had a guy in her life. She can not go longer than a few weeks without finding someone, anyone at times to fill that black hole void she feels in her heart when there is no man in her life.

 

I think its pretty pathetic of her and she always gets herself in trouble because she will be willing to settle for anyone who shows her attention. I feel like I was just another cog in her demented mind, all the time we spent together. Everyone tells me it was a blessing in disguise us breaking up and not getting married. People tell me I dodged a bullet.

 

But yeah, she always needs to be validated by a man. She once told me she has never masturbated in her life because she would always find a man to satisfy her in that area. I couldn't believe it when she confessed that to me. Pathetic I say, pathetic.

 

D