Shadow01 Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 before me and my boyfriend got together 3 years a go, my ex and i recently broke up because i could not trust him. i do not think i ever fully gotten over him, because a year a go we started seeing each other more often and eventually lead to kissing. he knows i am still with my boyfriend, who things aren't going well with. i have tried to break up with him a few times, yet he refuses to give up on the relationship. my current boyfriend is my best friend and seems like the perfect person for me to be with, yet i don't feel the same way as i did in the beginning of the relationship, but i still like him, and i cheated on him with my ex, whose personality does not fit me as well as my current boyfriend. me and my bf have not really had sexual contact for almost a year, when i started getting closer with my ex. While he tries to, my bf won't leave me because of our lack of intimacy. should i break up with my boyfriend and give me ex another chance? or try to fix things with my bf?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I don't know that there is anything to fix really with your boyfriend. You can't make yourself feel the same way you did at the beginning, and trying to force it will ultimately hurt all three of you. Let the boyfriend go, and then decide what you want to do with the ex.
seibert253 Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Do at least one thing that's respectful toward your BF. Let him go and end it.
jnj express Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 What you need to do---is to figure yourself out----you have no clue as to what you want-----you need to grow up some, before you do a serious relationship
BetterOffWithoutYou Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 you should leave both of them! you left your ex bc you cannot trust him and his personality doesn't fit you... it's not going to work a second time. don't fool yourself into thinking he will change! also, if you haven't been intimate with your bf for a year AND cheated on him, then you only love him as a friend. it's time to move on now so you don't hurt him more!!! after all he is your best friend as well. you should let go of both of them and try to figure out what is best for you before you date again. good luck <3
Cracker Jack Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I see no logical reason why you would get back with your ex. Sure, you guys seem to be regaining something, but how long will that last before you lose trust again? Anyway, you should end it with your boyfriend. Don't continue cheating on the poor guy.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 my current boyfriend is my best friend and seems like the perfect person for me to be with, yet i don't feel the same way as i did in the beginning of the relationship, but i still like him, and i cheated on him with my ex and here we are with yet another example of how the jerks get the women. break up with your bf, he deserves better. should i break up with my boyfriend and give me ex another chance? or try to fix things with my bf? nah, break up with your bf so he can find someone who is faithful, and go back to a guy who has no problem messing around with someone elses girlfriend.....it should be interesting
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 and here we are with yet another example of how the jerks get the women. break up with your bf, he deserves better. nah, break up with your bf so he can find someone who is faithful, and go back to a guy who has no problem messing around with someone elses girlfriend.....it should be interesting AGREED. The poster sounds very immature and doesnt understand how things in the world work. If she wants an ex that is an azzhole then so be it. The new ex will be better off!
Jersey Shortie Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 and here we are with yet another example of how the jerks get the women. You got to be kidding me Dexter. Would you want to date the OP? She is a serial cheater and very wishy washy. Please stop pushing your personal agenda and making this woman an example of how "jerks get the women". NO. This guy got that woman but that dosn't mean all jerks get all woman. OP, get a back bone. Break up with your current boyfriend and save the whining "he doesn't let me" bs. You are incharge of your own choices. You are continually dispresecting yuor current boyfriend and are going to have long lasting damanging affects on him because you couldn't keep your legs closed. If you want to be with the ex, be with the ex. You deserve each other.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 You got to be kidding me Dexter. no, not kidding at all. OP is a prime example of a woman who wants an ahole and betrays someone she says fits her personality. Would you want to date the OP? of course not. She is a serial cheater and very wishy washy. Please stop pushing your personal agenda and making this woman an example of how "jerks get the women". NO. This guy got that woman but that dosn't mean all jerks get all woman. I said its just an example of how jerks get the women......not all women, but I feel it applies to alot of women out there. It seems to be the norm....too many women want that "bad boy" they can't completely have, and betray the guy they say they mesh with the best.....it doesn't make sense. The OP needs to feel the loss of her bf...bf needs to find out and leave her for good. Maybe THEN "girls" like her will finally get it.
Mimolicious Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 no, not kidding at all. OP is a prime example of a woman who wants an ahole and betrays someone she says fits her personality. of course not. I said its just an example of how jerks get the women......not all women, but I feel it applies to alot of women out there. It seems to be the norm....too many women want that "bad boy" they can't completely have, and betray the guy they say they mesh with the best.....it doesn't make sense. The OP needs to feel the loss of her bf...bf needs to find out and leave her for good. Maybe THEN "girls" like her will finally get it. Men do the same Hone!
McGrupp Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 i cant believe your bf wants to stay with you when you havent ****ed him for a year... thats crazy! are you guys in your 60's
Dexter Morgan Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Men do the same Hone! I agree, but this man never has. I actually despise women who think they are all that. I like someone who isn't conceited. Those types are never faithful.
Mimolicious Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I agree, but this man never has. I actually despise women who think they are all that. I like someone who isn't conceited. Those types are never faithful. Excuse me! I am a very attractive chick. I take pride in that and I make sure that I look well put together because it makes me feel good. When has ugly ever brought anyone joy? Thinking you are "all that" and conceited - translates into immaturity and insecurity issues. Self-importance in exaggeration. Being and feeling beautiful is that, a feeling and a state of mind-I call it grown and sexy!
Dexter Morgan Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Excuse me! I am a very attractive chick. I take pride in that and I make sure that I look well put together because it makes me feel good. When has ugly ever brought anyone joy? there is a big difference between wanting to look good and being comfortable with yourself, and someone who is downright conceited and in love with themselves. Thinking you are "all that" and conceited - translates into immaturity and insecurity issues. Self-importance in exaggeration. exactly, so if you don't exhibit the traits of what you just posted above this, then my comment didn't apply to you did it?
Mimolicious Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 there is a big difference between wanting to look good and being comfortable with yourself, and someone who is downright conceited and in love with themselves. exactly, so if you don't exhibit the traits of what you just posted above this, then my comment didn't apply to you did it? No it didn't.
Reality Drip Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 You current boyfriend and you don't have sex. So what are you, buddies? Ditch him. Your ex and you don't mesh well because of the disparity in personality chemistry. Exes are exes for a reason. Ditch him. Wouldn't it be nice to just start with a clean slate with someone new rather than be in the middle of this triangle? OR... Keep having fun if you're enjoying it. Can't blame you, it can be rather exciting -Max
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