declove Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Ive been in a 4 yr relationship with someone who walked all over me, and i gave him chances here, there, everywhere, until finally i broke it off, my heart turned cold by then. i met someone else after, only thing was he doesnt live here, he was only here visiting for a couple months. we spent everyday together, literally, we had a wonderful time and by the time he left we were sure we loved the other person. so we decided to do long distance. everything was fine, but i was becoming vulnerable and sad and i missed him. one night i had a few too many to drink and met my ex, (who was really nice to me for the past couple weeks)and i ended up sleeping with him. i regretted it as it happened. it eat at my soul and i couldnt take it anymore, so i told my bf. he told me he will think about giving me a second chance but hes leaning towards no, its been 4 days and i havent heard a no or yes, he sent me messages but none of them said "no i wont give u another chance or yes i will" . the suspense is killing me. i dont know if he'll take me back. anyone know how else to deal with the suspense??
Spiritofnow Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I don't mean to sound harsh, but perhaps the 'suspense' as you put it is part and parcel of the consequences of your actions. Life is never black and white and I am not going to judge you, but irrespective of what caused you to behave that way he deserves to have this time, and I am afraid that you will just have to occupy yourself the best you can and wait for his answer. I didn't like to see your thread left unanswered. I hope life becomes less complicated for you.
madjac74 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I know people make mistakes. But if you succumb that easily to alcohol and temptation then how in the world would he ever trust you again. In a LDR you will have to go without sex for a long time and obviously you dont have the ability. If he takes you back then earn it. He would be crazy to though
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