CailinPig Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 i have a checkered past with a particular guy - my first love. He has a new girlfriend at the minute, he's only been with her for a month. I just found out about it. He told me he loves me but he's angry at me for not showing him that before. He's out of the country now and he said that even if he was in the same country, he'd be too angry with me to go out with me. Yet, he says he gets this burning feeling in his belly when he thinks of us. Basically, none of this matters. All I wanna know is how I stop feeling sad. I went through a year of depression when we broke up before (we haven't gone out properly since and that was almost 3 years ago). That year was the worst of my life and I felt like I didn't want to live. I'm so scared it's gonna happen again. I had a flash of it earlier where i Felt compelled to contact him several times. And then I felt an overwhelming urge to cry constantly and that there's no happines in the world. I'm so scared of feeling that way again. I just want to be happy. What do I do?
Sari Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I know how you feel, I suffer from depression and my ex has just left me for the second time completely out of the blue. I am not coping at all, and am terrified that how I'm feeling is not 'normal' break-up blues but something more. Maybe you should think about this: You are a depression sufferer who needs people around you who are kind and who love you. Your ex does not seem to have your best interests at heart and therefore does not fit in to these catagories. It may not feel like it right now, but the best thing for your emotional well-being and sanity would be to step away from him and get him out of your life. I know how hard this is, please believe me, but he will only make you feel worse, not better. Are you having counselling? Big hugs xx
ukguy1985 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 its been 8 months for me since my ldr ended. i havent felt happy since it ended, ive been angry and unhappy. sometimes i just feel like posting my ex's msn convos on the forums of the game we met on to get back at her. posted my thoughts about it on blogger about her actions etc. the one thing i have decided on though is for me relationships is just not for me. its not worth hurting someone or getting hurt from someone and i dont care if its part of the meaning of life in all honestly. see a therapist and or find a guy who can be clingy and smother you. i am sorry if this post comes off cold and harsh.
Author CailinPig Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 hey sari, poor you. i know how you feel. i wonder do i suffer from depression. i've never been diagnosed but i'd say it's a strong probability. but, that said, i think once you've been burned, it's never gonna be as bad again. i hope! i'm feeling ok-ish. but first time he left me, i felt like i was gonna die. so keep strong! find someone else!! ukguy1985 - oh man, i reeeeally don't want a guy who's clingy and smothers me!! that was one of the problems i had with a past rel. he wanted to be with me all the time. I have commitment issues, i need space when im with someone and a lot of guys can't handle that. hence my situation!
ukguy1985 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 hey sari, poor you. i know how you feel. i wonder do i suffer from depression. i've never been diagnosed but i'd say it's a strong probability. but, that said, i think once you've been burned, it's never gonna be as bad again. i hope! i'm feeling ok-ish. but first time he left me, i felt like i was gonna die. so keep strong! find someone else!! ukguy1985 - oh man, i reeeeally don't want a guy who's clingy and smothers me!! that was one of the problems i had with a past rel. he wanted to be with me all the time. I have commitment issues, i need space when im with someone and a lot of guys can't handle that. hence my situation! hmm lol you sound like my ex. can i ask what exactly are the commitment issues girls have? cause when my ex said to me that i smothered her(it was an ldr... and call me ignorant but how can you feel smothered over the atlantic?) i was like ?. do i need to be cold and detach with the next girl?
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