ohsovexed Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 My girlfriend of two years broke up with me two weeks ago. I wanted another chance, but she made it clear that it's not possible now. What I took from her explanation was that she loves me, but my goal isn't to have a mansion, yacht and swimming pool so I have no drive in life. I make good money, but not enough to afford really nice cars and take long vacations(not yet at least). She is not shallow, but she does place a higher value on material things than I do. I know this won't change, so after my initial attempt at getting her to realize it can work, I decided to move on. Here's where everything gets really confusing. Her birthday was this past weekend and her sister and I planned it for her. We planned the party before she broke up with me and I put time and money into it, so her sister said that they wanted me to come and hang out for a little while at least. I showed up, but wasn't really in a party mood, so I decided not to drink and just hang out with my friends. A little while after I got there, everyone was trashed, except for the ex's sister who does not drink. I don't know her very well but we got to know each other better while planning this party, so we started talking and laughing at how drunk everyone was, and then just started talking about everything. She finally put my ex to bed, and I helped her clean up the house. When we got done, she told me to stay and finish our conversation, it was a long, spiritual/metaphysical one(my ex and I never had talks like this) and we seemed to both be getting a lot out of it, so I stayed. We ended up having sex in the open room and I left early in the morning. I'm just really confused as to what to do now, because I really like this girl and we are a much better match(maybe why the ex hardly ever had us hang out together). We were both dead sober, so I know it wasn't just a drunk thing, and we've been talking a bit since also. The ex blew my phone up all day at work yesterday texting we need to talk and calling me. I still haven't called her back but I'm going to today, and though I've known her for a while, I really don't know what to expect. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Whoa! Whoa! My head is spinning but nothing surprises me. I really dont put much strain on you but HER SISTER????????!!!!!!!! What kind of sister does that???!!! I know that a few are going to chime in and say that probably this is the one for you and go for it. I can somewhat also say the same but don't expect things to be no walk in the park either. For all you know they set you up. I kidd, I kidd. Call her back and see what she has to say, she probably already knows. If she doesn't then maybe you should be honest and tell her. She didn't want you anyway (not that it justifies you splacking it with her SISTER ) she wants the Beemers, Benz and Bentley's. Keep us posted though! This one sounds good!
Green Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 NO WAY SHOULD YOU TELL HER. THis is a Juicy story... WOW. Look man if you broke up because she doesn't like who you are as a person... then thats it. If you want her sister I say you go after her.
Author ohsovexed Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 I'm sure she knows now, and I will definitely tell her if she doesn't. It's just that half of me doesn't want to hurt her feelings and the other half of me hopes this kills her. Kind of ironic that what she didn't like in me is the same thing that attracted her sister to me. Her sister is also very confused and neither one of us knows what to do, but we've both said that we have feelings for each other, and I think this started while we were planning the party several weeks ago, and this weekend was just that attraction manifesting kind of. We know that whatever happens, it's going to take time, so right now we are just going to take it very slow, and not getting our hopes up.
Author ohsovexed Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 Why shouldn't I tell her Green? I'm not going to lie to her about it, especially when she probably already knows.
Green Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Why shouldn't I tell her Green? I'm not going to lie to her about it, especially when she probably already knows. You don't have to lie, just don't talk to her at all. I feel bad for her sister... I mean if the situation were reversed and say I broke up with my gf and then she slept with my brother... well I would be pissed for a long time. Its just a bad situation, I don't think you owe her an explenation... her sister won't have the same luxury you do to just distance yourself. IF you want to date the sister I think you should... Personaly I can see lots of problems in the future though
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Yeah Green. Why not tell her? I mean, not that your credibility is at all times high right now but at least take the high road to being honest and not a true pig. She did leave you, but not exactly for her sister to have. There are boundaries but it's too late to cry over spilled milk now. Let me grab my popcorn.
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