TheColorOfStone Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I finally decided to respond to someone from an online dating site that seemed to have a lot of the qualities I look for in a man. So far the only issues I have with him are that he cracks jokes that are completely inappropriate and not funny at all once in a while and that he doesn't seem to like to call, but rather seems to prefer to replace calling with texting. We were going to set up lunch plans last week and I already let him know my issue with texting (that I don't like to text very much and to call me). First thing he does when he gets my number is try and have a full out conversation via text. I told him via text to call me and he finally does. It's a good conversation but once we hang up, he goes back to texting. What frustrated me the most was that he tried to figure out lunch plans via text and seemed hesitant or irritated to do it over the phone. So, I cancelled the lunch date entirely. I told him that I've had this issue in the past with an ex and the entire relationship was based on text and I didn't want to go down that road again. He then spent the next few hours emailing me convincing me why I should still go on that date and most importantly, that he would make an effort to change his habits on the texting. I agreed to lunch the following week. Well, it's the following week and he once again is trying to make plans via text! Am I simply overreacting? I mean, he has quite a lot of the qualities that I look for otherwise...
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Blame the tech revolution. Does he have a lot of minutes on his plan?? Hey, maybe he only has unlimited text! (I got this excuse before)Maybe he can't talk on the phone while at work? I understand you though, I've been there myself. See what happens on the second date. If he has a lot of qualities that you are looking for in a man, the texting issue can be modified.
phineas Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I really only text while at work or when i'm ready to go to bed. I prefer talking otherwise.
carhill Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Am I simply overreacting? Nope. You want what you want and, IMO, it's completely reasonable. Interpersonal relationships exist in the real. Texting is electrons, just like this post. What we're having here is not an interpersonal relationship. What you want is one. Hold out for someone who can give you what you want. BTW, I tell women I date that I don't text, even though I can type 90wpm (look at my post count). I call them; I touch them; I date them. Real. Good luck
Philetus Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 It seems that texting is a complete deal breaker for you. So, this is what I would do. (BTW, I would totally respect a woman who did this to me.) Go out with him since he has a lot that you like. Tell him that you will no longer respond to his texts, that you don't like it and if he can't respect your request, he's not respecting you. I'd do the same thing with the inappropriate jokes, too. If he texts you after that, don't respond to them.
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