alexa137 Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I met a guy on the plentyoffish dating site in January, exchanged a few messages then a few emails getting to know each other. Well then for a weeks I didnt bother having communication with him because I figured he was like all the other 99.9% of men who are players. He then requested me on facebook & we exchanged phone numbers & the texts and calls started. He would call me everyday while he was working(drives a truck) and talk for hours for weeks & realized that we wanted the same things, like an actual relationship with no games etc...We made arrangements to met & things were great that night, we clicked & had chemistry. A month later we had sex, still talked on the phone but all of a sudden he mentions that he cant move forward until he gets over his ex who hurt him very much. So then i was like no what? because I just dont just have sex with anyone! I mean its been over 2 years that ive been in a relationship! So I got a little upset and started ignoring his calls for a week, then we talked & he was always explaining what happened on the weekends when he wouldgo out or messages the ex sent him, which I didnt really want to hear but did anyways, because like he stated we were friends and he thanked me for being such a good friend and listening to me. We hooked up again a few weeks ago, and when we talked now he tells me that he is keeping me around "for a reason". He continues to go out on dates with other women, even though he tells me he likes me blah blah blah...so i'm thinking he wants his cake and eat it too! I ask why does he go on dates with losers when the almost perfect girl is right in front of his face! ME!!! and to make it even worse Ive never gotten a real date with him yet! yeah we had a lunch date at a fast food restuarant and a late breakfast after the club the night we meet! I liked him then stopped liking him, so that I wouldnt get feelings for him and tried to back away, now I am ignoring him because i feel it wont get nowhere. every weekend he goes out fri & sats but always asks me to come over during the day. Ive been to his apt 2 times & no signs of a female. now im to the point where i'm ignoring him again because Im tired to hearing the stories. should i de-friend him and leave him alone and ignore him? I just dont understand all the games men play!
Author alexa137 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 oops! I meant " what does this behaivor mean?" sorry
phineas Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Seriously? You say %99.9 percent of men on the site are players then you let yourself get played by someone you met on the site. Who are these guys that keep getting away with this? They must be very smooth & very good looking & have absolutly no integrity whatsoever. He told you EXACTLY what you wanted to hear in order to have sex with you then changed his story to "he's not over his ex" Loose his number & de-friend him on facebook. He'll use you for sex as long as you let him.
Author alexa137 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 nooooO! I meant that 99.9% of men I met anywhere are players and dogs and only want one thing!(sex!) out of the last 10 men Ive talked to none want a relationship! i am gonna be 40 in a few months and havent been in a real relationship in forever, actually only been in 1 in 20 yrs! so pathetic-it doesnt matter the race, age or where and how i meet them! i actually deleted my profile on all dating sites months ago! weirdos! well so far ive ignored him and he stopped calling me! but i thought he was actually a potential good guy-with good morals and trying to become a real man! guess that doesnt exist in this country!
Krytie TV Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 You could try using capitalization and formatting to make it possible to read the wall of text.
make me believe Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 He's using you. Don't let him. He's keeping you around "for a reason"? Uh, yah, and that reason is to have sex with you! Tell him you want no further contact with him, delete his number, and ignore all further calls/texts/emails. Let him play around with one of the many other women he's seeing. BTW, I hope you made him wear a condom because he's most likely fking those other women, too.
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Yes, please use paragraphs they are our hommies! Honey spare yourself the drama and hit DELETE in all the possible places that you have this loser listed. Little by little and failed attempt after another, you will learn how to weed out the rotten ones sweetpea. Dont give a stranger so much access to your personal life either nor your body. You met him in January, it's only the middle of May and all this nonsense already happened. Keep it moving.
bac Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 nooooO! I meant that 99.9% of men I met anywhere are players and dogs and only want one thing!(sex!) out of the last 10 men Ive talked to none want a relationship! i am gonna be 40 in a few months and havent been in a real relationship in forever, actually only been in 1 in 20 yrs! so pathetic-it doesnt matter the race, age or where and how i meet them! i actually deleted my profile on all dating sites months ago! weirdos! well so far ive ignored him and he stopped calling me! but i thought he was actually a potential good guy-with good morals and trying to become a real man! guess that doesnt exist in this country! I agree that it does not exist at least online. I had the same experience. I guess there are some normal guys in the world around, but by age 40 all of them are married.
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