Change2 Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I am having a hard time lately with feeling fully satisfied,sexually. I am turned on very easy ALL the time and yet at the same time I feel that when I orgasm its not enough. Yes, its still very pleasureable but I want a bigger feeling. I dont know what its from. I have A LOT going on in my life. But, im getting close to my prime. All I want to do is have sex,and more sex and be satisfied to the fullest. Its what i think about all day. Yes, my H is fully aware and goes to all measures to please..so wtf?? ideas..or has this happend to you? I want to be blown out of this world!!!!
BettyBoop Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 To be honest your post comes across as selfish to me. What about your husbands sexual needs and desires? The way you're feeling is the way I felt when I was with my ex-fiance. I didn't O but it was intense and good and eventually all I cared and thought about was how *I* was gonna "get there" and stopped giving crap about his O and nothing that didn't get me "there" was enough. Sorry if you don't mean to sound selfish, it's just how I felt when I was in the same place. Perhaps try to explore new different things with your partner like karma sutra or something.
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 OP, your post reminds me of a film where the male has sex and orgasms and says 'ITS NEVER ENOUGH.' Some people have a very high sex drive and even reaching orgasm is not enough to satisfy them - they want a bigger feeling or more orgasms. This is difficult to work around because you'll probably never have 'enough.' Maybe the answer is more sex, or different sex. If you're looking for 'WOW' you're looking for unfamiliar sex - not the usual. Suggest to your husband different things. Although I always find talking about and planning sex, the unsexiest thing there is.
xxoo Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Goskim, I wonder if the part missing is emotional. I've read some of your other threads, and understand that you are still recovering from your H's infidelity. You want to be satisfied to the "fullest", but can you do that in a relationship where there is lingering pain, resentment, and insecurity? I can not relate to infidelity, but I remember being very sexually "needy" when I was younger. We'd have crazy sex all the time, but it was never enough....I'd O and immediately want more. For me, it really was about feeling insecure and needing a lot of reassurance that I was highly desired. Sex was a "fix", but not a solution. Do you think that might be what is going on?
mitchell Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Goskim, I wonder if the part missing is emotional. I've read some of your other threads, and understand that you are still recovering from your H's infidelity. You want to be satisfied to the "fullest", but can you do that in a relationship where there is lingering pain, resentment, and insecurity? I can not relate to infidelity, but I remember being very sexually "needy" when I was younger. We'd have crazy sex all the time, but it was never enough....I'd O and immediately want more. For me, it really was about feeling insecure and needing a lot of reassurance that I was highly desired. Sex was a "fix", but not a solution. Do you think that might be what is going on? +1 Just read all of your other posts about how you are still dealing with your H's affair and the pain of your recent miscarriage. I think you are substituting sexual satisfaction for your emotional needs. Sex will never replace the hurt and loss you feel. You need to continue with counseling not just more sex. I'm praying for your recovery.
Author Change2 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 +1 Just read all of your other posts about how you are still dealing with your H's affair and the pain of your recent miscarriage. I think you are substituting sexual satisfaction for your emotional needs. Sex will never replace the hurt and loss you feel. You need to continue with counseling not just more sex. I'm praying for your recovery. Thankyou very much. I dunno, if it was emotional needs that im doing this why do i get so turned on just by the way he touches me, kisses me ect.
Author Change2 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 Goskim, I wonder if the part missing is emotional. I've read some of your other threads, and understand that you are still recovering from your H's infidelity. You want to be satisfied to the "fullest", but can you do that in a relationship where there is lingering pain, resentment, and insecurity? I can not relate to infidelity, but I remember being very sexually "needy" when I was younger. We'd have crazy sex all the time, but it was never enough....I'd O and immediately want more. For me, it really was about feeling insecure and needing a lot of reassurance that I was highly desired. Sex was a "fix", but not a solution. Do you think that might be what is going on? Im not sure. I know how much my H desires me, I feel it. And when im feeling things from the affair i usually want nothing to do with sex. But, im not sure if i could be using it as a fix to get over the loss of our son. I was just hoping its how women are in their prime!
Darth Vader Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Im not sure. I know how much my H desires me, I feel it. And when im feeling things from the affair i usually want nothing to do with sex. But, im not sure if i could be using it as a fix to get over the loss of our son. I was just hoping its how women are in their prime! Well, if you ride your husband, he'll last longer perhaps that'll help. I've heard men last longer when their wives are riding them! Some women can go all night like that! Sounds like you're one of them right about now!
SouthernSunshine Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Try anal stimulation right before you orgasm. Works everytime for me.. I have a lot of little O's, they come like waves, then just before the big O... my guy inserts his finger, and that makes me O even harder.
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