Indypendence Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Indypendence is my screen name almost everywhere. It's a state of mind. Having grown up with people who were not my bio parents or even really related to me, I have always had the feeling that I was a burden (not because I was told so; but from hearing other adults talk). I have always tried to pay my own way, make my own stuff, do my own thing and not be dependent on anyone and that is one thing my husband initially loved about me. (On our first date, I paid, because I lived in the projects while I was attending college when we met and was a single mother----he had no kids----and I didn't want him to think I was trying to find me a baby's daddy or think I was the easy chick out of the projects that was gonna give it up on the first date, so, I paid our way; he went in for a kiss after walking me to my apartment and I gave him the cheek at the door and said GOOD NITE) He said later he was really impressed that I paid for our first date. But, in supsequent years my behavior didn't change and that is the one thing that brought about the distention in our marriage............My Indypendence. He says he felt replaceable............like I didn't need him.
OWoman Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 It is an INCORRECT generalization to say that people who protest and get nasty during their defense of their positions or beliefs are less resolute in those who shrug off attacks. A persons response has NOTHING to do with their level of conviction and EVERYTHING to do with what type of person they are AND how they are feeling at that particular moment. ... and how under siege they perceive themselves to be! When posters are supportive, people seldom feel the need to respond defensively - but when they get attacked, called nasty names or their integrity questioned, it's a rare person who doesn't respond defensively! On the topic of names - I'm OWoman because I love Os!
Fight4Me Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Not terribly interesting, but I picked Fight4Me because that was the answer to my fWH's question, "Please, please tell me what I can do to help you heal?" In fact, I believe I said, "fight for me as if your life depended on it, but please just let me go if your heart isn't into it." He's been fighting like mad since.
Samantha0905 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Lots of interesting screen name choices and reasons..... So true. Jennie means "fair and yielding". It comes from Guinevere, which is appropriate for this site since queen Guinevere had a love relationship with sir Lancelot whilst being married to King Arthur. They were both good men, and she was a good woman too I believe. I love the story! Mine is real random; I happened to be perusing "Canterbury Tales" the day I registered. I'm not even a particular Chaucer scholar or anything, though I was an English Lit major back in the day ... I laughed a lot reading "The Miller's Tale" -- although I'm certainly no Chaucer scholar either. Wow -- I just picked Samantha because I've always thought it was a pretty name. I did not want to use the screen name I use elsewhere -- because I don't want anyone figuring out who I am unless I choose to divulge it. I also was upset when I first started posting and just picked a name quickly. Now I wish it wasn't so boring, although Sam is pretty easy to type when people are responding to me.
OWoman Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Indypendence is my screen name almost everywhere. I did not want to use the screen name I use elsewhere -- because I don't want anyone figuring out who I am unless I choose to divulge it. Interesting opposing views! I wonder whether most posters here at LS use screen names they use elsewhere, like Indy, or whether, like Sam, they pick unique names for LS for reasons of anonymity / pseudonymity. I'd guess that the latter would be more common, given the nature of most of the content people are posting about here, but perhaps I'm wrong. (I have hundreds of screen names, all over the place, sometimes more than one at one place. I guess that's the nature of the Interweb - you can be who or what you want to be, in cyberspace...
Author turnstone Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Owls have been my totem since I was 17. Long story on how that came to be...but it wasn't chosen as a screen name because I consider myself wise or anything...just because it's been part of my name for decades. Now...if I'd chosen a name like Owl-donkey...that might have been more appropriate! Now you really are bragging This thread goes a long way to proving my points
MizFit Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Sorry, but I go with the posters who don't agree with the generalization of defensiveness and guilt. There are a lot of things that spark my denfensiveness...time of the month, how stressed I am at work, health of my mother, missing my son, feeling like I, or someone else, is being attacked...loads of things. Some days things roll off my back...some days I turn into someone so defensive I don't recognize myself! My name...all of my life I've been a bit of a misfit. As I've hit midlife I've found my stride...I used mizfit elsewhere and it stirred up a few conversations so I have a few places where I use a variation of it.
Owl Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Now you really are bragging This thread goes a long way to proving my points LOL! I'm not sure on the 'bragging'...by "Owl-donkey" I meant that my name would be "Wise-a$$"....which I do tend to be. Think it might not have translated the way I meant? LOL!
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