Hannah86 Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 My boyfriend and I just got back together, we previously dated last year for about six months. I've always had a big problem with how close he was to his college girlfriend (off and on for about 4 years) and even had to tell him to remove a picture he had with her on his bedside table. We just got back together and had a lot of things to sort out. One of the big red flags was he insisted she was his best friend, but there was no chance--ever--of them getting back together. They talk more than once a week online, and apparently about once a month on the phone. I think that is way too much. They broke up 2 years ago, she lives in another state. She looks a lot like me, but is 2 years older. He has said, "college relationships are not meant to be" When we talked about getting back together, he took back what he said about her, and said [guy friend] was his best friend, and that we could get there eventually. It made me happy that he finally surrendered. Sometimes, now, I worry that when we go a couple days without talking, he is talking to her instead. I don't like being naggy, I don't want to sound insecure, but how can I get him to talk to me instead of her about everything that's going on in his life? I am so glad she is in another state. Should I remain as I am, a little distanced and non-clingy? I feel like pushing him to talk more will only hurt us. He also said his ex was annoying because she always asked him what he was thinking. I guess I more or less needed a place to vent. I hate how available she is!
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