d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 hey so I like this guy that I met in December talked for a few days but then he broke off contact with me cause he had a gf & realized talking to me was a bad idea (cause he liked me) I recently got in contact with him again (still has the same gf) & we were friends / talking on facebook but he deleted me twice I know he likes me but why delete me? is it because he can't be just friends with me?
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 (edited) how come no one answers? Edited May 18, 2010 by d0ll
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 this is a really weird situation, but if he was really a scumbag he'd cheat on his gf with me instead he broke off all contact with me so idk .. i'm thinking he did that cause he likes me?
guarded Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Wow im kind of in the same boat as you! I really don't get the whole fb thing, after he deleted you did he still keep in contact somehow? the same thing happened to me and i didnt know how to take it, he blocked me but kept in contact through sms and chat. maybe he does like you but doesn't know how to deal with it and he's confused cos he's with someone? that tends to complicate things. though i really can't say much cos im confused myself lol although i dont see why you guys can't be friends, nothing wrong with being friends even if they're dating someone. As i see it, guys and girls can be platonic friends. Surely he has 'girl' friends, the fact that he can't seem to have that with you would imply that there's something there but he just can't deal with it and breaking contact just seems to be the easiest option?
Citizen Erased Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 How about you ask his girlfriend. He's deleted you because he knows it's inappropriate.Which it is.
xRJ85x Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 hey so I like this guy that I met in December talked for a few days but then he broke off contact with me cause he had a gf & realized talking to me was a bad idea (cause he liked me) I recently got in contact with him again (still has the same gf) & we were friends / talking on facebook but he deleted me twice I know he likes me but why delete me? is it because he can't be just friends with me? How good of friends are you with him? Close? Not to be a creeper haha but if that's you in your avatar, I can see if she's in the "jealous and paranoid" category why she'd be very concerned that her bf is close to you. In other words, she asked/told him to delete you and cut off communication.
BubbleFreak Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Sounds like he is being loyal to his gf and not wanting to complicate things by befriending another girl who he may have feelings for. Whether she asked him to stop being friends with you or not, it was his decision in the end. Just shows where his priorities lie, and imo, it's a virtue.
Frontliner Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Sounds like he is being loyal to his gf and not wanting to complicate things by befriending another girl who he may have feelings for. Whether she asked him to stop being friends with you or not, it was his decision in the end. Just shows where his priorities lie, and imo, it's a virtue. I agree. He sounds like a very virtuous person. You should definitely pursue a relationship with him.
phineas Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Are you wanting to be friends with him so your first in line just in case he breaks up with his GF? Nothing wrong with that mind you, i'm just wondering because that is what was theorized in the "friends to relationship" thread.
make me believe Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Why do you want to be "friends" with a guy that you have feelings for who has a girlfriend?? Sounds like you want to be "friends" in the hopes that he eventually dumps his gf for you. Hopefully he deleted you out of respect for his gf. Move on & find somebody who is available.
carhill Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 he deleted me twice I know he likes me but why delete me? is it because he can't be just friends with me? Simple. His GF will cut his d*ck off if he doesn't toe the line wrt inappropriate female friends. Having watched men in action for a lifetime, most are idiots in the obviousness of their 'like'. Little discretion. I've had my moments too Accept that he likes you and has a GF. A lot of men will 'like' you in your lifetime. Many of them will be married or in a LTR with someone else. What's *your* choice?
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 (edited) Yeah for real... why are you so concerned about why he deleted you or why he doesn't want to stay in touch? Are you becoming or are you an insercure chick?! He has a GF *off limits*, the one that should be not wanting to have any communication with him should be YOU! (If you have any principles of course...) And isn't that Megan Fox on your avatar? Edited May 18, 2010 by Mimolicious
carhill Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 And isn't that Megan Fox on your avatar? Looks like it
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 haha thanks for all the replies that is Megan Fox as my avatar but yeah i'm sure his gf made him cut off contact with me I don't mind cause I know once he's single he'll come to me I would not date someone that has a gf or feelings for someone else & she is insecure I was just trying to get peoples opinions
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 So you're willing to be lay-a-way plan? no. but I know he likes me & when we met it was like some love at first site thing that happens in movies lol & I wouldn't date him as soon as he's single he'll of course need time & I wont be the one to pursue it he'll have to come to me
sagetalk Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 d0ll, if you're hot, then guys don't want to be your friend. Being your friend means you will never be sexual with them. They want to be sexual with you. This guy has a girlfriend, so I think it's a good idea for him to drop contact with you. It's interesting how someone just posted that girls only like being friends with guys when they have a girlfriend, and I now I see it validated right here. It just shows what great advice that was.
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 d0ll, if you're hot, then guys don't want to be your friend. Being your friend means you will never be sexual with them. They want to be sexual with you. This guy has a girlfriend, so I think it's a good idea for him to drop contact with you. It's interesting how someone just posted that girls only like being friends with guys when they have a girlfriend, and I now I see it validated right here. It just shows what great advice that was. yeah the first time when he ignored me he said he wishes it could have ended differently & apologized to me said it was complicated, but I def know he's attracted to me so yeah I agree it's best we don't speak for now
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 no. but I know he likes me & when we met it was like some love at first site thing that happens in movies lol & I wouldn't date him as soon as he's single he'll of course need time & I wont be the one to pursue it he'll have to come to me Get off your high horse. If this guy is willing to sneak around his GF's back to water fruitless "friendships" that should tell you something about this character. Poor GF... I actually love how people who are involved are drinking out of the "Love at first sight" juice. Sweetpea, I'd tell you this... Sleep with him, call his GF and tell her that you guys fell in love at first sight and see how much love you are going to get from this boy. You'll never see the sight of him...
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 Get off your high horse. If this guy is willing to sneak around his GF's back to water fruitless "friendships" that should tell you something about this character. Poor GF... I actually love how people who are involved are drinking out of the "Love at first sight" juice. Sweetpea, I'd tell you this... Sleep with him, call his GF and tell her that you guys fell in love at first sight and see how much love you are going to get from this boy. You'll never see the sight of him... are you dumb? I would NOT sleep with him .. he realized by talking to me it was wrong so he stopped talking to me which shows he is loyal he started talking to me because he wasn't sure of their future together but then they worked everything out
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 He's loyal but he started talking to you again because he wasn't sure of their future but they worked it all out and back on the bandwagon. Doesn't sound to kosher. Who's dumb here? What would you do if he called you tomorrow, told you they are on break, messes around with you then has an epiphany and goes back to his GF? This is something similar to what he did to his GF. Sounds like he is testing the water, but his GF is no joke and has a good grasp on him and you are actually not the average chicken head that gives it up. Good for you! Keep it up, just dont let yourself get fooled. Men say all sorts of bullsh*t to get pity a$$. Ciao bella!
Author d0ll Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 He's loyal but he started talking to you again because he wasn't sure of their future but they worked it all out and back on the bandwagon. Doesn't sound to kosher. Who's dumb here? What would you do if he called you tomorrow, told you they are on break, messes around with you then has an epiphany and goes back to his GF? This is something similar to what he did to his GF. Sounds like he is testing the water, but his GF is no joke and has a good grasp on him and you are actually not the average chicken head that gives it up. Good for you! Keep it up, just dont let yourself get fooled. Men say all sorts of bullsh*t to get pity a$$. Ciao bella! no no the first time we started talking (when we met) he wasnt sure of their future. I wouldn't date someone that is "on break" from a relationship
BubbleFreak Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I agree. He sounds like a very virtuous person. You should definitely pursue a relationship with him. Actually I meant that yes he seems like a good guy, but only because he didn't want to be friends with the OP. If he becomes single, by all means the OP could go for him no dramas. But as long as he has a gf, the gf is the most important person, and he is showing his loyalty by not befriending the OP. As for the OP... you can do whatever you want. But put yourself in his gf's shoes... would you want another girl befriending your bf, knowing that they "like" each other?
somedude81 Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I know once he's single he'll come to me I would not date someone that has a gf or feelings for someone else & she is insecure I was just trying to get peoples opinions This is one of my biggest issues with women. They are like little children who only want a toy because somebody else has it. D0ll how many eligible bachelors do you know? How many decent guys have expressed an interest in you and you passed up because they were single?
Author d0ll Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 Actually I meant that yes he seems like a good guy, but only because he didn't want to be friends with the OP. If he becomes single, by all means the OP could go for him no dramas. But as long as he has a gf, the gf is the most important person, and he is showing his loyalty by not befriending the OP. As for the OP... you can do whatever you want. But put yourself in his gf's shoes... would you want another girl befriending your bf, knowing that they "like" each other? Yeah I wouldn't want some girl talking to my BF either - that's why i'm not chasing after him I respect that he has a GF but something doesn't seem right there I have no idea why he's with her she seems to be clingy & obsessive & more in love with him then he is with her
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