Sadbutrelieved Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 It's been a while since I checked in; I've been getting on with life. I have reached the point where I don't miss him at all. I can't believe I ever found him attractive. I haven't started dating yet but I might go to lunch with a guy I know from work. It won't really be a date because he's transferring to another state in a few weeks, but it won't hurt to stick my toe back in the pool I guess If you take any advice from this site at all, take the no contact advice. It's so much easier that way.
skydiveaddict Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I wish it was getting easier for me. But it's just not
Author Sadbutrelieved Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 It probably helps that my ex is a total douchebag...really, not one redeeming quality that I can remember. Hang in there.
sandiego Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Skydiveaddict, it really does get easier. My gf broke up with me 7 months ago (and moved out of state). 3 1/2 months into our breakup, we tried again...long distance. Although I only saw her once during that time, it really hurt when she dumped me again after only a month. I can tell you that, for me....the 5th month was the hardest. I'm not totally sure why, probably because I knew she was dating again (and had been crushed yet again). I thought I was crazy for holding on and greiving heavily after 5 months. One day I really just couldn't take the pain anymore...I was so anxious and miserable.....so I made the decision to just accept and surrender to what is. A sense of relief washed over me. I no longer tried to control something I couldn't, and it's been easier for me ever since. I have my great, good, and just ok days, but it's gotten much easier. It'll happen for you to, just be patient with yourself and know that it WILL get easier. Hang in there....I know where you're at. You'll get through it! SD
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