Author piscis Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 (edited) Thank you all for the comments. when he asked me to show him the great life we could have together I told him I have already done that for the time the affair has going on and despite that he decided to go back home, so why do I need to show him that again and I will the best woman on earth so in 3 months he can tell me yes you are wonderful but sorry I am not leaving home. I am single with no kids so I really don't want to be rude with this comment and I am also from Mexico city (I say this in case my english is not that good and I can get misunderstood- it has happend to me here) I think he is using the little girl as a lame excuse in my opinion he could be a great father if he wants and that does not include sleeping in the same bed with the mother's girl if he really did not want to. It is going to be sad, yes. He feels he is abandoning her. But of course there is more in this situation than just his daughter and here is where I get lost, he has been married for 15 years, before me he had an A for 10 years so my head gets all mixed up sometimes I think if he did not leave during those 10 years this has become a way of living (he at home and having a separate relation with someone else) and sometimes I think he really does not care about his W if he's been cheating for almost the whole marriage so why not leave now? Oh I am so confused Edited June 24, 2010 by piscis
Silly_Girl Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Thank you all for the comments. when he asked me to show him the great life we could have together I told him I have already done that for the time the affair has going on and despite that he decided to go back home, so why do I need to show him that again and I will the best woman on earth so in 3 months he can tell me yes you are wonderful but sorry I am not leaving home. I am single with no kids so I really don't want to be rude with this comment and I am also from Mexico city (I say this in case my english is not that good and I can get misunderstood- it has happend to me here) I think he is using the little girl as a lame excuse in my opinion he could be a great father if he wants and that does not include sleeping in the same bed with the mother's girl if he really did not want to. It is going to be sad, yes. The girl and the whole family is going to be hurt yes. But I think children should not be the only reason to stay in a marriage. It's not. Separated parents can be fantastic parents, just as married parents can. This is his way of keeping you at bay. Not being honest with you. Getting around you. If he wanted to do it, he'd do it. He doesn't want to, not right now. I'm sorry you're in this position. It's so hard. ((hugs))
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