Karmaguy Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 so Ive been going through NC but mostly limited contact w my ex for the last month and a half or 2 . Just recently sent a letter saying if we arent in a relationship we shouldn't talk.. that was a few days ago.. she called me a day ago and I didn't answer ( as I was busy) . question is should I call back . Not to talk about us or anything just out of courtesy or just ignore it ( btw she left no message. Is it rude to not call back I dont want it to seem like I'm purposely trying to avoid her or play games
TaraMaiden Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 so Ive been going through NC but mostly limited contact w my ex for the last month and a half or 2 . Just recently sent a letter saying if we arent in a relationship we shouldn't talk.. that was a few days ago.. she called me a day ago and I didn't answer ( as I was busy) . question is should I call back . Not to talk about us or anything just out of courtesy or just ignore it ( btw she left no message. Is it rude to not call back I dont want it to seem like I'm purposely trying to avoid her or play games Actually, isn't that exactly what you are doing by implementing NC? Which you are right to do, BTW..... If you're going to get over the break-up, yopu need to implement NC, and stick to it. if you write to her telling her that as you're not in a Relwtionship then you shouldn't talk.... then all she's doing is yanking your chain and disrespecting your request. So - as this isn't about her, it's about what you want - leave it be, do not reply, stick to total and complete across-the-board NC and don't even think about breaking it, because otherwise it will just be the same-old same-old lather, rinse, repeat.....
TaraMaiden Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 And as this was your last post in the other thread you created..... I tried LC in not contacting her and it seemed to work but once I did see her I gave her the power back and can see she just wants things her way . I also think your right that she was testing me . She also made a comment assuming I had a girlfriend now and that she is so happy for me b/c she wants me to be happy.. I dont know if I believe that or its her way to take guilt off herself for breaking up or shes just completely bluffing . I know it doesnt matter but I'm curious. (anyones thoughts) Anyway yes I agree NC is needed for myself, its going to be hard but Its what I need to do for me. ...Why are you even asking?
Author Karmaguy Posted May 17, 2010 Author Posted May 17, 2010 Thanks Tara. I m asking because I have gotten advice from others that I should return the call and just act "cool" I dont want to have NC only to push her away. I agree NC does help me but I also would like to be with her in a relationship . NC seems like a good way to push someone away as well. I mean who is ignored and keeps trying to talk and come back?
lonely without him Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 It sounds to me like she is just stringing you along and doesn't care about anybody but herself. Leave her alone or you will get hurt emotionally worse.
CaliGuy Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 The answer is no. No, you do not return her call and no, you do not break NC. If whatever she has to say is important she will KEEP trying to contact you. Honestly though, I don't believe in second chances. It's more or less a "second mistake". The first mistake was her leaving and you believing she'll come back. The second mistake is taking her back after she dumped you. Odds are it's going to happen again. It's better to start fresh with someone new than to keep running on old, re-treaded tires, eh?
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