thtguy Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Try to keep it short and sweet: I like this girl, known her about 5 years but it's always been a "friends" thing. Recently we had been getting closer and for the first time she started to open up to me, mentally and physically flirting. Even going out together..not on dates but just me and her. One of my friends who currently has a girlfriend likes this same girl too but it's always been a "friends" thing with them as well. Thing is, whenever he comes around it's like she just turns ...cold toward me. Any time we got out the body language between my friend and the girl says it all. I think my guy friend sensed that she was getting closer to me and has now dumped his current gf and is making the full on charge for the girl I'm into. She is responding to this and now it's like I don't exist, don't even get a phone call from any of our mutual friends when they all go out. I guess why I am posting this here is because I am taking this very personally, it's hard not to. I now feel so much like I was the backup plan or something for her. I try to think about the next girl and what features/qualities I look for in a woman that I would want, yet when I wake up in the morning my mind seems to be on my friend and how much fun I had been having with her. It's just got me down, I try to hold my head up high and am looking for new women to meet, but it just seems like all my friends are now getting married and I'm like the lone single guy. Just looking for some advice on how to deal with/cope with all this, it is going to be difficult to go out with everyone and see them as a couple when I thought it would be me holding her hand.
ADF Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Frankly, it doesn't sound like this woman or your friend are ery good people. What kind of jerk dumps his GF because he wants to take a shot at someone else? His ex-GF is a human being, not a product to be discarded as soon as a new model come out. And why is this woman doing running hot and cold on you like that? She sounds pretty selfish, indifferent and disloyal to me. I think you may hae dodged a bullet. The only thing I would say is that the next time you are interested in a woman, don't let 5 years pass without saying anything. That just gets you friend-zoned.
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