never had a one night stand

[Woggle]

Woggle, you're entitled to your views - but they're undoubtedly radical, and hardly stable. I guess they're consistent in their extremity.

 

I don't know WHAT kind of girl you attracted.

 

They might be radical but they make sense.

 

I attracted a woman who knows how to have a healthy relationship. Truthfully I am therapy to learn hot to be a better husband because my wife truly deserves it. It doesn't change the fact that there are still many women not worth the effort.

[CLC2008]

They might be radical but they make sense

 

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[bac]

/QUOTE]

 

Brainygirl, congrats on finding plenty of FWBs!

Where do u find them? Does it take a lot of time to look for them?

[marsle85]

they might be radical but they make sense.

 

I attracted a woman who knows how to have a healthy relationship. Truthfully i am therapy to learn hot to be a better husband because my wife truly deserves it. It doesn't change the fact that there are still many women not worth the effort.

 

 

and there we goooo

[carhill]

Woggle, you're entitled to your views - but they're undoubtedly radical, and hardly stable. I guess they're consistent in their extremity.

 

I don't know WHAT kind of girl you attracted.

Extreme? Absolutely, IMO. Even as a man, I can see room for moderation.

 

Stable? IMO, eminently stable, even in the face of repeated personal attacks over the years, occasionally extending to his wife, like now. Even facing bullets from a crazed ex.

 

IMO, therapy is going to achieve nothing but more positives and take an already good marriage and make it better. That's my hope for Wogs.

[dreamingoftigers]

That makes no sense to me because I am not at all attracted to guys who are in relationships. Even celebrities I crush on, as soon as I find out the guy is married or has a girlfriend, its like switch gets flipped, no more attraction.

 

I think women who go after men who are already paired have problems. They either don't want a relationship or they are seriously messed up.

 

It is totally like that for me too. When I was 16 I had a crush on my Art Teacher, he didn't wear a wedding ring and when he talked about his wife one day in class I actually felt ashamed.

 

I had one celebrity crush and when I learned that he was engaged to his fifth wife to be, that zapped it.

[Woggle]

and there we goooo

 

I do leave room for exceptions because they do exist and I appreciate them.

[Pyro]

Us men know what works with us and what doesn't. What women tell us and what men experience tend not to go hand in hand.

 

The women that fall for the childish games and the women who go for guys who are already in a relationship have a screw loose, just like your ex. Those women are no where near the majority out there.

 

Of course you will choose to ignore this because its rational, makes sense, and proves that you are wrong.

[marsle85]

Extreme? Absolutely, IMO. Even as a man, I can see room for moderation.

 

Stable? IMO, eminently stable, even in the face of repeated personal attacks over the years, occasionally extending to his wife, like now. Even facing bullets from a crazed ex.

 

IMO, therapy is going to achieve nothing but more positives and take an already good marriage and make it better. That's my hope for Wogs.

 

 

Even being consistent and stable in what you admit are extreme views does not paint a healthy picture.

 

 

I do leave room for exceptions because they do exist and I appreciate them.

 

Woggle. You're describing these women as "exceptions" to the rule! You can't even "appreciate" the topic of Sperm Donation, which has a TRUE and moral purpose without you assuming it's a way for women to raise fatherless children.

 

Your comments blow me away.

[Twenty-ten]

Just my observations that women prefer experienced men.

 

 

Experience doesn't come from ONSs in fact the worst lover I ever had coincidentally was also the most promiscuous of all men I have ever been with. Technique can't be perfected from loose ties and the number one reason a guy would be bad in bed is because no one has ever showed him how to do it right, in ONS scenario there is no learning about the other person and what pleases them there is just straight selfish pleasure. He was the least adventurous and sex for him was all about his penis, there was nothing cerebral happening there at all.

 

I don't doubt most really promiscuous guys would be terrible in bed.

 

Experience comes from more than just ONS, ONS are possibly the worst experience you could have in terms of being a good lover.

 

As a guy it's good advice for another guy in order to push him to get his rocks off but that's it.

[Frog in Love]

For some ,ONS is good for health, mentally and physically, really. science magzine. But dont be indulged all the time. It is fantasy to fullfill your dream, that's all. Like online games, u cant bring your onlinegame parner back to spent your life with him(her).

[carhill]

Even being consistent and stable in what you admit are extreme views does not paint a healthy picture.

 

It's his path and he never, without exception, in any posting I have ever read, has ever personally attacked a fellow poster, which is more than I can say for some of the respondents to him. That's stability. I'd be on permanently moderated status, as some posters here have discovered the hard way

[CLC2008]

It's his path and he never, without exception, in any posting I have ever read, has ever personally attacked a fellow poster, which is more than I can say for some of the respondents to him. That's stability. I'd be on permanently moderated status, as some posters here have discovered the hard way

 

Remarks towards a particular group of people that are offensive, manipulative and filled with hatred in nature, is malicious.

 

The people who respond to it at one point or another is because it is, just that....

 

Sorry, but that is not stability in any form.

[Woggle]

It's his path and he never, without exception, in any posting I have ever read, has ever personally attacked a fellow poster, which is more than I can say for some of the respondents to him. That's stability. I'd be on permanently moderated status, as some posters here have discovered the hard way

 

Also unlike some other men on here I have never once excused men cheating or any male behavior by saying that men need variety or they need spread their seed or any of that crap. I call them out as well.

[CLC2008]

Also unlike some other men on here I have never once excused men cheating or any male behavior by saying that men need variety or they need spread their seed or any of that crap. I call them out as well.

 

It's OK Woggle.

 

**Most** of us see your agenda...we really do, so need to explain and/or rationalize it.

 

[Woggle]

It's OK Woggle.

 

**Most** of us see your agenda...we really do, so need to explain and/or rationalize it.

 

 

I don't know what agenda you speak of. I am as real as they come and I just speak my mind.

[carhill]

Remarks towards a particular group of people that are offensive, manipulative and filled with hatred in nature, is malicious.

 

The people who respond to it at one point or another is because it is, just that....

 

Sorry, but that is not stability in any form.

Yes, but personal attacks are against the terms of service of this forum. I guess we're gonna test that

[marsle85]

I don't know what agenda you speak of. I am as real as they come and I just speak my mind.

 

I think you and what you believe is real to you, yes... but I think you're also unwilling to expand past your limited ideals on men, and "mostly" women. Just because you don't account men's cheating to theories dating prior to to the 16th century doesn't make you all fair and mighty... it means you're not "mostly" a sociopath.

 

I wonder, are you possessive or controlling over your wife?

[CLC2008]

Yes, but personal attacks are against the terms of service of this forum. I guess we're gonna test that

 

Of course they are...except when those attacks are towards a group of people.....

[Woggle]

I think you and what you believe is real to you, yes... but I think you're also unwilling to expand past your limited ideals on men, and "mostly" women. Just because you don't account men's cheating to theories dating prior to to the 16th century doesn't make you all fair and mighty... it means you're not "mostly" a sociopath.

 

I wonder, are you possessive or controlling over your wife?

 

I am not controlling towards her but I have a no tolerance policy towards. She cheats once and it is over.

[carhill]

Wogs married a stable, loving woman. So. How does he support her and show his love, I wonder...

TBH, since ONS have no place in a healthy marriage, my advice to Wogs (and what I would do if I were in his shoes) would be to enjoy my wife, go to therapy and forget completely about LS. That would be one way of showing love and support. Seriously Wogs, consider it and ask your therapist about it. This place can be a toxic soup as much as where you work. You have to work.

[Maggotface]

I think it's SUPER attractive that you never had and have no desire to. Honestly, it's hot!

 

I would flaunt that every chance you get with women.

There is nothing great about having ONSs, not one thing.

 

(PS I've never had one either, but I am not ashamed of it or make excuses for it and I love it that way)

 

Ditto! I think it's very unattractive that my boyfriend has had one night stands. I think it's unattractive for anyone just to have pointless, meaningless sex with random people.

 

This is just a personal preference for me, if a person doesnt mind having no strings attached sex to satisfy their urges more power to 'em.

 

I've never had one and dont ever plan on it. You dont seem very comfortable having one and I'd hate for you to regret it if it's not what you really want.

[CLC2008]

TBH, since ONS have no place in a healthy marriage, my advice to Wogs (and what I would do if I were in his shoes) would be to enjoy my wife, go to therapy and forget completely about LS. That would be one way of showing love and support. Seriously Wogs, consider it and ask your therapist about it. This place can be a toxic soup as much as where you work. You have to work.

 

No one suggested that they do....

 

Well, I think that's wonderful for Wogs. Part of that process also includes learning to cut back on negative remarks towards a general population instead of voicing them and backing it up with "well it's the truth".

 

No, it's not the truth, it's the truth according to one person based on an unfortunate and terrible experience.

[Mimolicious]

Haha! I read about that somewhere. I can see the next invention now...a device that detects which women are close to ovulation ....for men by men!

 

 

They do have this but it is used for planned parenting. It tells you when you are ovulating. I mean, any grown woman should know this by heart...

[marsle85]

I am not controlling towards her but I have a no tolerance policy towards. She cheats once and it is over.

 

Does she have to check in with you? Is she encouraged to go out with her friends for a girls' night? Are you allowed to browse her phone, texts, etc.?