Confused234 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Recently broken up We were together for 5 years, and living together for 4. We broke up about 2 weeks ago after a huge argument. I came to my family in another town, as I did not work (his choice), and during the first week after the break up discussed getting back together. The first weekend that I was away, he picked up another girl when he went out with his friends. She was a homeless person, and he moved her into his flat. After that he has been very rude to me, and we keep on arguing when he phones. He phoned me on Friday, and I refused to pick up. He ended up phoning 17 times. On Saturday, I returned his call, and once again he was very rude and we started fighting. I have decided to break off all contact as from today, but would like to know what his problem is? I plan to move back to the town where he lives in order to find work, but need to know what to expect.
EthanH Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 He is controlling you, and you are in a very weak position. You say you didn't work and that was his choice, NO it was your choice. You are responsible for yourself. You need to put yourself first. He has treated you badly and you need to force yourself to have the self respect to move on. The fact he called you 17 times shows that he doesn't like not having control over you. Ask yourself why you want to get back with him, why you are upset, when 1) he is rude to you 2) you argue with him 3) he moved onto some homeless needy woman 4) he clearly has no respect for you...how can you think you could be happy with him after all of this? The answer is that you are needy and you have nothing to focus on in your life apart from him. Don't let yourself play the role of victim. Put yourself first.
Author Confused234 Posted May 17, 2010 Author Posted May 17, 2010 How do I focus on myself? I haven't done that in such a long time...
EthanH Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 therein lies the problem... look at what you have just written... you know that is really really really unhealthy, right?
Ilovecake Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 change your phone number so he can't harass you. Is he by any chance an addict?
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