metrobaby. Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 There's a guy in my life at the moment who I've been starting to see in a different light recently. I've known him since I started university last year, and I never really thought of him in a romantic way. We've always gotten along really well, and been able to have a laugh together. However, over the last couple of months, my feelings for him have changed. We've been spending quite a lot of time together - over the holidays, we spent the day together to meet up with some mutual friends. We were alone in the car for about 4 hours, so we had LOADS of time to talk, and it's incredible how easy he is to talk to. I feel like I can connect with him on a deeper level than most guys. Anyway, since we got back to uni, we've been getting closer - I've seen him most evenings over the last 2 weeks, usually it's him who initiates this. He'll invite me up to his room to watch a movie or something, then we'll just end up chatting for ages afterwards. He seems to be wanting to spend a lot of time with me at the moment. This seemed like a good sign, especially given that lately, he's been acting quite flirty, e.g. during a long chat the other night, he was cuddled up next to me on the bed, and kept looking right into my eyes. It was pretty intense for somebody who just 'wants to be friends'. Here's the dilemma. I know he has feelings for another girl, as he has spoken to me about them before. This doesn't seem like the sort of thing you would do in front of someone you're attracted to. He even asks for advice - however, I'm not sure how serious his feelings are. He has admitted to me that he isn't sure whether he is attracted to this girl for real, or if he is just attracted to her looks. At the moment, I think he is just biding his time to see where things go with this other girl. However, we seem to be becoming closer very quickly. What should I do? Should I wait and see how things progress, or should I tell him how I feel, knowing that he fancies another girl and I may simply be just a friend to him?
doomage Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Ya tell him. You're going to wonder "what if," if you don't. What's the worst that can possibly happen? Nothing, but atleast you'll have your answer. Sometimes the reason why we talk about other girls is because we think you only want to be our friend, but if you have feelings chances are pretty good that he will return your feelings if you've been hanging out all lovey dovey with this guy. Let me know how it goes. The days of guys making all of the moves are over, sometimes women have to step up to the plate, don't be scared.
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