Nena_01 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 (edited) So we were together for two years, officially together for 1 year. We met each other's families and were in a serious relationship. We were long distance for the last 6 months. I showed him I loved him through my actions (I was a really good gf and he made sure to let me know how good I was to him saying I was "the best gf he could ever ask for", etc), but I never said the actual words. He never said them to me either and I didn't care much because he was also showing me that he cared through his actions (or so I thought). We would send each other texts with "<3" or say "love" in cards. I've never really said "I love you" to anyone (and maybe I was scared to say it even though I felt it?), but he has said it to his previous gfs although I don't know who said it first. Was this a deal breaker for him that I/we never said it after over 1 year? If he had said it to me, I would've said it back! I know this couldn't have been the main reason for our break up, but did it have something to do with it? Did he want me to say it first? Shouldn't your actions be stronger/speak louder than words? We are not talking anymore and I don't really know the real reasons for the break up - it was a shock to me as I thought everything was fine. All he has said is "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" and doesn't even want to give us a second chance. I know I have to move on, but I'll be blaming myself a lil if me not saying those three words had anything to do with us breaking up... I would also like to be wiser for my future relationships when it comes to this. Btw we are in our mid-20s. Any input into this is greatly appreciated!!! Thank you so much! Edited May 17, 2010 by Nena_01 typo
ScaredHubby Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Those three words can mean so much, but you are correct that actions speak louder than words. My ex said it all the time, but without actions to back it up in the end it meant nothing. Words are just words. Actions speak louder. Sometimes people do just like to hear the words though.
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