ScaredHubby Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 I've never posted on an on-line forum before, but right now I'm very lost and confused. Here is the basic rundown on events leading up to today - For the last few weeks my significant other has been trying to get off of drugs. She has been in a support program. She has constantly been texting and chatting with other people in her program, however there has been one specific person who she would always hide her conversations with. Friday she went to see a psychologist because things around home had become unmanageable. When she came home, she told me that the psychologist confirmed that the problems at home were her fault, and that she was a risk to myself and our children. She also claimed that they had given her no paperwork and had told her she had until the end of the month to willingly move out, or they would come in and take our children. A couple of hours later I found an envelope in the car, completely unmarked. She claimed her friend who she had driven home from the support group had left it, so I took her laptop (logged into facebook at the time) and asked her friend. He stated it did not belong to him. I opened the envelope, and it was the notes and suggestions from her appointment. She insists they never gave her an envelope and has no idea how it got there. Because I love her, I accepted what she said at face value, and proceeded to try and help her find an apartment for which I would help her pay the costs since she is currently unemployed. Things appeared to be going ok, we agreed that she would go to the anger management and parenting courses that they had stipulated (although none of it was written down in the envelope..), and that we would get through things. The next night she was up until the middle of the night texting and chatting under the premise of working on her recovery and getting support from friends. I woke up first the next morning, and things just didn't add up or seem right. Being somewhat computer savvy, I checked the web cache and found snippets of her facebook conversations with another guy. The conversation included things like 'It would not be right for us to sleep together while I am still living here' and 'We can give this relationship a shot'. I went upstairs, woke her up, and told her to get the f*ck out of my house. She claimed that the conversation with this guy was to 'test me' to see if I was monitoring her internet activity. He is also in a committed relationship. Would she really be willing to mess up someone else's life to 'test me'? Six hours later she called me from about three hours out of town to say goodbye to our children, and proceeded to take a whole bunch of pills. I called the police, and they found her vomiting and nearly unconcious in the car. The car is now impounded hours away, and she is in local hospital. I don't know what to do. I'm so lost right now. I would really like an opinion from someone who doesn't know me and just sees this situation from what I've written. Feel free to request more info. I love(d) her so much, and we've been together for 7+ years. I know she is going through hard times with her addiction withdrawals, but I feel so betrayed. Even if she was just 'testing me', what healthy relationship would involve such a test? If she allows me to sit with her while she's chatting with people all the time except with one person, shouldn't that set off a red flag? Any advice is more than welcome.
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