Maladjusted Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Caribou, can you get a hold of the cell phone bill? I'd start checking numbers if you are suspicious.
ADF Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I do agree, that you do not have enough to confront her. The voice activated recorder is great under the drivers seat of her car. Get another one for the room she speaks in the most. This is basically how I found out....the first nite I set it up. Affair partners generally contact one another frequently. Whenever they are SAFE.....SHE THINKS THE CAR IS SAFE!!!! Look, ewen if you don't care about the priwacy issue, you must see the potential for this scheme to backfire. Suppose the OP is wrong. I doubt he is, but let's imagine for a moment that is GF is innocent. What do you think his GF's reaction will be when she finds a spy mike hidden under the seat of her car? She will totally freak out, be furious, and dump him immediately.
Dazedme Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 None of this is really proof, however, that gut feeling you are having is usually right. You need to start taking a close look at things. By that I don't mean confronting her because let's face it, you have nothing. Here is a few tricks that I used from the book "Hindsight, How to catch a cheater" If you have a joint cellphone bill, order detailed billing. It will give you all the numbers she texts, gets calls or makes calls to. If you think she is using your home to meet him, make the bed before you leave in a way you can check it. (do a hospital corner on just one side) Set the passenger side seat in her car to an uncomfortable position. Then check to see if it's been moved. If you know where she eats lunch, drop by and sit back in a corner where you won't be seen. Look for new gifts or new things she has you don't remember her buying. Check credit card and bank statements for things she may have bought him. If you think she may use your home phone to call him, leave her alone at home and then use the *69 feature. Don't confront her till you have 100% positive proof. If you do you'll just make her better at hiding the trail. 1. Have not been intimate in months 2. Found BCP in medicine cabinet. When confronted, she claimed it was to regulate heavy periods. 3. Found "feminine wipes" in medicine cabinet. 4. Recently got new phone that allows texting when she previously never had a need to text before. Locked it so I cannot access it.
ADF Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 None of this is really proof, however, that gut feeling you are having is usually right. You need to start taking a close look at things. By that I don't mean confronting her because let's face it, you have nothing. Here is a few tricks that I used from the book "Hindsight, How to catch a cheater" If you have a joint cellphone bill, order detailed billing. It will give you all the numbers she texts, gets calls or makes calls to. If you think she is using your home to meet him, make the bed before you leave in a way you can check it. (do a hospital corner on just one side) Set the passenger side seat in her car to an uncomfortable position. Then check to see if it's been moved. If you know where she eats lunch, drop by and sit back in a corner where you won't be seen. Look for new gifts or new things she has you don't remember her buying. Check credit card and bank statements for things she may have bought him. If you think she may use your home phone to call him, leave her alone at home and then use the *69 feature. Don't confront her till you have 100% positive proof. If you do you'll just make her better at hiding the trail. I think you're correct when you say the gut is usually right about these things. People who suspect cheating are rarely wrong. On the contrary, they often underestimate the degree of betrayal by their partner. But given this fact, why bother with all this spying? Seriously. If the trust between you is so badly eroded you have to resort to these tactics, isn't the relationship over anyway? And on the small chance she isn't cheating, wouldn't she freak out at all this 007 stuff, think you are an obssessed maniac stalker, and dump you? It seems like a waste of time, energy and money when you already know what the result is going to be. You are damned near positive she is cheating. She'll deny it. You won't believe here. Relationship over. Why all the skullduggery?
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