leftyright1 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 i've been w/ my gf for 1 1/2 yrs. she got a job offer elsewhere and told me its move w/ her or she'll stay, look for other jobs, and we move in together. i told her i wanted to be w/ her but was not 100% sure we were right to marry (i wanted to be open and honest given her situation). this caused her to question everything we've built together (relationship in general is great, just a few things still working through)-- i really want to be w/ her but am still figuring out if she is the one for me for marriage. i understand where she is coming from, but am I way off base to try and continue seeing her or feeling devastated that we might not stay together? I've offered to move in w/ her is she stays where she is and also to look into a move to the other city - although it would need to be later based on my job situation. it seems things are now irreparable. i don't feel guilty for being honest but now really, really sad at whats happened and not sure if i said or did everything i could to let her know i still want to be w/ her.
CaliGuy Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 No sure why you didn't get a reply but hoestly, if you aren't sure you are a ready for marriage that is fine. Telling her she may not be the one is a bigger issue and I can understand why she might be questioning the relationship as is. I think if you think she might be the right one, tell her that. Tell her that you're trying to get your act together and hope that she'll hang in there with you. If you are unsure and don't know what to do then it's better to let her go and find someone else who feels the same way about her as she feels about him. Cheers
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