mani81 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 My gf's phone had some texts from a server co-worker of hers that had things like "goodnight cutie," "goodnight sweetie," and "I want to take a nap with you." Her phone only saves inbox, not sent messages, so I'm not sure what she sent. We were bf/gf for 2 months at that point and her coworker knew it. When I asked her about the messages she said, "Well, it's the restaurant industry..." (implying that people just talk to each other like that in restaurants) and that "he talks to all the girls there like that." I told her that was a horrible excuse. Then she said it was inappropriate for him to talk like that but it was him sending the messages not her so I shouldn't be upset at her. I said I'm not blaming her but the whole thing makes me uncomfortable.
brainygirl Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I've seen some really worrisome hanky panky go in restaurant. I'd ask her to ask him to stop sending the texts.
bananaboat11 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 the girl i've been seeing the last 2 weeks says she wants to be friends with her ex... doesn't want me as her rebound, but wants to be with me so we're taking things slow.. and is getting flirtatious text messages from her friend when he's drunk. i don't know what to make of any of it... but im trying to make this work. heh fml
Lauriebell82 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 I worked in a restaurant and nobody ever acted like that!!! This may just be a player who DOES talk to all girls like that..or not. You basically are going to have to trust her that she isn't engaging him and that this is just his problem. If she thinks his texts are innapropriate then she needs to tell him to stop. And you need to tell her that. If she has respect for you..and herself..then she will tell him to cut it out.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 honestly, ive seen a lot of cheating among some friends both just Gf/BF or married and this is this is how it starts. Its always some innocent texts that get it going. I would confront the dude about it to be honest.
Pfiend101 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 be wary. be wary......... My experience tells me this is not a good thing.
ADF Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 A point of clarification, please. How did you happen to see her phone messages? I ask because if you were randomly snooping through her phone, then I'd say you hae serious respect issues, neer mind the texts. If she showed them to you, then why worry? She's not hiding anything.
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