Westcoastloser Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 So yeah, i'm 18 and back in feburary I had to move out of my mothers and down to my fathers (they've been seperated since I was 11, and their relationship was on and off before that). Even though I know he's been addicted to heroin since as long as I can remember, he was always my favorite person in the world and my hero, and I felt like I could trust him and never be betrayed. I was wrong. I was kicked out of my moms house and moved with my dad in feb of this year. He didn't have a place of his own so he had to rent a room in the hotel where he worked. My goal was to find a job so me and him could get a real apartment to share. We moved out of there in mid march and I still hadn't found a job yet, and he hadn't been abusive towards me at all up to that point. We moved into his ex-girlfriends house for two weeks while I continued to look for jobs and he lost his. We found a place that he could afford so we moved in. I finally found a job (at mcdonalds, and another at TJ maxx) In the beggining of april and started working mid-april. This is when things started to go bad. He would run out of his suboxone medicine that keeps him for feeling the effects of ($($($(Call from him mid paragraph, he's kicking me out: He wants me to go to my mothers which is 100 miles away and I won't be able to go to work)$)$) Anyways his medicine keeps him from feeling the effects of opioids and when he runs out he goes through massive withdrawals and becomes a sick nasty person who does sick nasty things to people. He'll tell me how I'm not his son and my brother is better than me, how everyone asks him if i'm a retard, how worthless I am and how I need to suffer because he's suffering and I need to know what it feels like. This has been happening every other week for last 1.5 months. And it's really tearing me apart, the only other person that me and my dad talk to is his ex and they both make me feel like because He had spent thousands of dollars to help me get here and that because he's a drug addict that's trying to recover I should just put up with it or leave. I want to leave. The only problem is I have no where to go. All this has made me just want to go lay down and never wake up, I don't know what to do and I just want some advice. =( Sorry if this is confusing in anyway, just ask questions and I'll try to answer if you have any.
Author Westcoastloser Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 Oh and yesterday he did something I thought he never do, he physically jumped on me and started open fist hitting me. I didn't hit him back, Just pushed him off of me and pushed him outside and locked the door, he had his keys both I held the lock **** so he couldn't open it, he went to his exs house and she called me and said that I don't have the right to lock him out because I only payed like 200 dollars rent so far.
melodymatters Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Save your money and find a roomate situation near your jobs. You won't have to be abused by a drug addict, and your relationship with your dad will likely improve when you are living on your own as an adult and can say " I love you, but you're acting like an ass, so I'm out of here, call me tomorrow." I know many 18 yr olds today still have parental support, but it sounds like you are going to have to grow up fast and take control over your own life ASAP.
turnera Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 The best thing you can do for EVERYONE is to move out on your own, finish school, and move on. Deal with your parents later, when you're older. Join the military or the Peace Corps. Take care of yourself. Deal with them later; you deserve better.
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