lofi_tokyo Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I've been dating this wonderful guy for two months now and basically I can't tell if we're both bored or I'm just bored, or if we're both tired. For the last week and a half we've both been working nearly every day (he's on day 12 no breaks and I've worked 10/12 days), and on top of that I've been working 9am-5pm and he's been scheduled all 5pm-1am shifts. So our ability to see one another has been few and far between. Today he worked at 7am-3pm, and I worked 12-8pm, so we had the evening free together. Today was the first really nice day we've had here, and all I wanted when I got off was to have a nice cool beer and then maybe go out and enjoy the warm evening (that could have just been going for a walk). He works at 7am again tomorrow, and so I guess his plan was something more like get her in bed, bang her, go to sleep. Now to his credit, I love candy and he went out today and bought a ton of candy and put it on the side of his bed that I normally sleep on for me, and he clearly had this like, planned out, but I don't know... I just felt so bored with the idea. Beyond that, he just passed out after all was said and done, and did not at any point seem overly affectionate. I want to chalk tonight up to both of us being exhausted from all the work we've been doing, especially on his end because he's had such a bizzare schedule lately, but part of me is wondering if this is what we've come to - me going over to his place, us hooking up, and me wondering wtf is going on. He did mention how he wants to actually wine and dine me one of these days, but I mean, candy aside, I kind of felt like he was really focused on himself tonight. Or maybe I'm too focused on me? All I could think is how I'd rather be hanging out with my friends playing wii over a few beers or something. Blah. Anyone have some insight into this? Its been a serial dater for two years now, and this is my first time being in a committed relationship in those two years, so I'm kind of at a loss about how these things go.
magda Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Well, it's hard to say, he's been working a lot, so it's probably not that fair to judge. But there are plenty of guys who will buy you candy and have sex with you and can't think of a better way to spend the evening. I'm with you...that's boring if that's all there is. To some extent, he might not change and you'll always be driving you two into activities. You might be able to inspire him to wine and dine you by insisting on going out when you want to and telling him it's boring (in a non-hurtful way, preferably with sex at the end of going out.)
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