Never really talked before.

[DadofTwoGirls]

I've never really talked to my friends about my marriage before my wife decided to separate from me 3 mos. ago and neither have they about theirs..since then I've done nothing but talk to them about it and was really suprised how many of them either are in a similar situation,been there done that or worse..one of them told me his wife has cheated on him a 4th time FOUR TIMES..he's the bread winner and has 3 kids..I can't understand how he can even look at her..another said he and his wife haven't had sex in over 1 year and he feels nothing for her and would leave if not for his 10yr old daughter..another told me 3 yrs ago he came a gnats ass from divorce (14yrs married 3 kids) but after a year of MC they are better than before (1 yr now) and yet another is worried he and his wife are slipping (2 kids) because I had told him first and he said it made him think about his marriage and is now nervous..all of us are around the same age and have great jobs,some wives work mine makes more than me and we are deeply involved in our kids..I try to listen like they do but it seems if just one spouse isn't into reconciling or neither one wants to leave it's either divorce or live in limbo.

[Change2]

im sorry to hear. I hope for your daughters sakes you can work things out and either stay together or so you can co parent together. Marriage is definately the hardest thing i have ever done!!! But i also know that sticking through all the hard times and truly giving it our all, we come out stronger. You think something is impossible to get over/fix, but time, effort, love, patience, realizing we are human make anything possible.

[DadofTwoGirls]

Thank you goskim for the words of encouragement..the parenting part is easy for me know matter what emotions I feel for her because it comes natural and is something I love...it's weird how you can love your kids so much while raising them while at the same time let your own (mine) marriage and love slip away..it sucks because I want both.

[Woggle]

Most of my friends are either divorced or married to women that treat them like absolute garbage. I am very grateful that I am not in a situation like this. Believe me when I say you are not the only man going through this.