amz Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Its funny how life tuns out, Im sure everyone here on this site has had there heart ripped out. Dealing with loss? we have all been there, can't sleep can't eat can't be happy and can't get over it! But we do, that feeling goes away and you get over it. We beg everyday for our ex's to come back to us, for some of us they never do during that time. Once we are over it and we have moved on, we look back and go "OMG i was so hooked over that person" and kinda laugh about it. You think of them and you find it hard to beleive that you were ever caught up over them like that and how much of a fool you were. So why is it they always have to come back when you are over it! Back in the day you would of done anything for them to return but now....you get a Text you look at your phone and you laugh and put the phone back down it doesnt even bother you that they have just tried to contact you. And we continue on. Most of my ex's have come back when i have moved on or when i have least expected it. And most of the time i didn't care. Everyone i have dumped i have wanted them back or missed them down the line....you never do the right thing when your mind is not clear. Only time will tell. Any stories out there LSHACKERS?
wingman2 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 I read some of your earlier threads. How long has it been? A month and a half now? that's somewhat odd that you're completely over her considering I've been broken up with my ex for over 2 months but then again we've been together for 3 and a half years and were planning on getting married. My ex too contacted me after 3 weeks of NC and 5 weeks after the break up. It's been a month now since she contacted me though and we didn't work anything out. Funny thing is, is that she contacted me telling me she's been missing me incredibly and has been thinking about me non stop. I'm still working on it, seeing where things go and although I may no longer be in love with her a big part of me is still longing for her and I still think of her everyday. Not sure exactly whether she's feeling the same but looking back I can judge without resolving to my emotions knowing that I had something great even though par of me is displeased with her. Anyways though yeah that's quite a common case. They normally do come back when you're completely over them and no longer interested. It all depends on the relationship and the cause of the break up also how you handled it. The worse the situation the better the chances she won't come back. Now it's up for you to decide whether you want to take things slow and give it another shot, since you can look back clearly now, you can determine whether it's a relationship worth having or not.
Numb Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Its so true! The ones that really liked you even if they broke up with you seem to be the ones that do contact after some time has passed. Perfect story going through it right now. I dated a girl for a year and a half we broke up a year ago (she did the breaking up) as of 3 weeks ago I just went through another break up that lasted 8 months. Still alittle hurt over it but I just gotta walk it off, but the funny part is as we were breaking up over the phone I get a text from my last ex from a YEAR ago......needless to say I came out of this one with a FWB which makes the healing all that much easier lol.
Author amz Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 WINGMAN. We have been apart 6 weeks on Wed and had no contact for about 3 and a half weeks. Im not over my ex i am still hurting alot but i am over it enough to accpeted it....Now my head is starting to clear abit. All i was saying is that once i am over it and have moved on that is when they always make contact. It always happens.
Numb Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 You just got to act like you dont give a crap if they are gone or not, dont give them the satisfaction of knowing that they are breaking your heart. I know its WAY easier said then done, but in the end you WILL thank yourself for being that way and still have your pride too.
Author amz Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 I agree with you Numb.... They will never know how you feel if you shut them out and have NO CONTACT. Out of site out of mind.
nanana Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 Most of my ex's have come back when i have moved on or when i have least expected it. And most of the time i didn't care. Everyone i have dumped i have wanted them back or missed them down the line....you never do the right thing when your mind is not clear. Hey amz, could you give us a few examples of when this has happened to you? I'm just waiting for the day when my ex realises what he threw away between us, and how badly he went about it, but I know it'll be once I've moved on!
dan_the_man Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 They always do. Like I stated in another thread, they always contact you, or want you back when you least expect it. If mine contacts me telling me she wants me back, she will get told to "sod off".
Author amz Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 Sure, When i was 16 i was with my first love we were together for a year and i loved him so much (being my first love and all) so one day he decided to break up with me and he was so cruel about it, told me that i am young i would get over it blah blah and that he doesnt care ETC just being an A hole. I was so depressed and heart broken for weeks and i never though i would get over it....well i did About 4 or 5 months later i see him and i was soooo over it he wanted to hang out and watch movies and im like whatever. I kinda blew him off because those feelings had gone. I am now 26 lol and we are still friends, About 2 years ago i went over to his house for a drink and he started to cry he told me that the reason he left me like that was because he was scared of getting hurt because he had strong feelings for me (Wrong way to do it but i felt for the guy) he was so gutted on how he treated me....i forgave him. We have hooked up now and then but only out of fun. Heres another few, Had a girlfriend (In love the works) were together just under 2 years we break up she starts hitting it with one of my friends (Breaks my heart AGAIN!) so i pull the no contact card and move to another town don't talk to her for 6 months but in that time she would always ring text ETC. I come back home she tracks me down and we kinda hook up behind her other girlfriends back LOL but then i realise that what we had is gone and we drifted apart after that. We are still friends and we did hook up two Christmas ago. I have had a couple more that have come back but always after i seem to get over it lol. Im going through a break up right now we were only together for 3 months but i loved her so much she was my world. Im 26 she was 18 she was too young for a relationship and breaks up with me. (Broken heart again) lol. It will be 6 weeks on Wed since we have been apart and 4 weeks on Wed also with No Contact. So im still waiting but i can feel myself getting over it now.... Tell me about your story NANANA
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