Girls like to hit on dating men?

[385]

I don't know why, but ever since I started dating my girlfriend, girls who I've previously been chill with have been coming on to me like crazy. There are several girls, 2, which I can consider 'friends' meaning that I presume we knew each other to the extent where sex/relationship was unlikely, 1 which is a friend where I don't know her well enough to get into her 'friend' zone, and 1 who has a boyfriend.

 

Anyways, ever since I started dating this other girl, who also knew these girls (since we go to a small college, people know each other), the 4 girls that were my friends started coming on to me in ways that I did not even think occurred in real life.

 

All of these instances had alcohol involved.

 

1) I happened to see one of my friends at a party, and she was like hey, hugged me, and tried to kiss me on my lips. I'm not European and I don't greet girls like this.

 

2) I was going downtown to a bar to celebrate a friends birthday, and I happen to bump into another female friend who was also going. She proceeded to hug me and proclaim repeated 'I love you' while my girlfriend was in sight. This, obviously hurt my GF really bad, and I had to spend the entire night consoling her.

 

3) I was pregaming for another friends party and the girl who I'm not in the 'friend zone' yet suddenly gets really upset that I haven't hung out with her enough and tells me that I'm one of her favorite person at school. This girl, I barely knew, and didn't even have her number, although we've hung out via friends of friends.

 

4) Another girl who has a BF, who was hosting a pregame, initiated body contact, i.e. poke me/put her hands on my shoulder, etc... She also gave me several flirtatious smiles. This is also out of the blue.

 

These girls know each other, but they aren't best friends with each other and don't hang out with each other - meaning that I highly doubt this is some conspiracy between the 4 girls.

 

What the hell is going on? I seriously think god is testing my fidelity or something because I do have a wondering mind but not a wondering hand.

Edited May 16, 2010 by 385

[Lakeside_runner]

Hahaha! Sometimes I think it's like "Once you're in...you're in" - meaning once girls who normally would only friend-zone you see that some other girl (i.e. your GF) desires you and they start thinking "Wait. Maybe I missed a great opportunity here...".

[phineas]

Personally, if they KNOW you have a GF i'd assume you were paying some kind of attention to them before.

Now you are focusing on your GF.

 

they don't like that.

It's probably a low self esteem thing.

Stable women don't flirt that way with men already taken.

These are the kind of women you can score with if you have a good looking female friend as your wing-man at a bar.

 

Or, it could be your GF has a high social status so her picking you means you've just upped your value as a male.

 

Same stuff went down when I got a GF. Numerous women who I knew in my social circle all went to happy hour regularly.

 

Not a single one was interested in me.

Until I showed up with my GF one friday.

 

so, These chicks that looked like they were fighting to stay awake when I tried talking to them all of a sudden wanted me to do a shot with them on their dime.

 

Wait till you get engaged & women who didn't give you the time of day want to all of a sudden have sex with you.

 

some chicks are really messed up.