Spartacis Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 (edited) Hello, My name is Spartacis...I cant get over my girlfriends pass. So here is the deal. The girl i have been dating for 11 months is four years older than me, 31. She is smokin hot and I am 100% attracted to her physically. I want to love her with all my heart but I am having a reallly hard time getting over her pass number of men she has slept with, 19 (i have selpt with 6 women including her). Most of which were when she was between the ages of 16-21...like i think 12 or 13 of them were. She says she has tried a threesome with a two guys but never went through with it (was about to but never did). She also says she let a guy **** her and then **** another girl right after...this was when she was younger keep in mind. Is 19 guys too many?!?!?! Am I crazy for caring? She has a big tatoo right below her bellybutton but is currently having it laser removed...Everytime i see the thing I think of her Slutty pass. She still has a bunch of holes in ears from ear piercings, a worn hole in her tongue from a tounge ring, and has a clit ring (which I like). I am not sure if i should just get over it and not care? All these things make me think she was a slut. She says she never had a one night stand and never cheated. I really like this girl, especially sex wise...What should I do??? Thanks Edited May 15, 2010 by Spartacis
Toki Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Either accept all of her, or don't accept her at all. Not that hard.
norajane Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 If you can't handle it, then move on so she can be with someone who appreciates her for who she is without judging. She doesn't need you around thinking of her as a slut.
TheLoneSock Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Just ask yourself one thing... WWSD? What would Spartacus do?
Author Spartacis Posted May 15, 2010 Author Posted May 15, 2010 Toki, not that helpful. Nora- you are exactly right...im just trying to figure what TheLoneSock (great name by the way) said, What would Spartacis Do?..... Keep them coming.
Lauriebell82 Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 I think you need to get over her past if you want to be with her. She isn't slutty anymore is she? She has been with you for almost a year, if she was still into her old ways then I highly doubt she would have stuck around in an exclusive relationship that long. She's even having the tattoo removed! So you either need to accept that she isn't that girl anymore or move on to someone without such a colorful past.
TheLoneSock Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Thank you, I was just being sarcastic by the way. In my opinion Spartacus (the historical Spartacus) was pretty much a bad-ass. He wouldn't feel threatened by a sexually interesting past in a girl. Don't feel threatened by her conquests. Rise above it, be like Spartacus. Know that you are a better man than those that have come before you and know that she has chosen you, as you have chosen her as well. Like others have said before (in a different way), if you can't handle the heat, get out of the kitchen. That's basically what I meant by 'WWSD?'. Clearly you admire him, whether because of the recent Starz series or a passion for actual history. Emulate him.
thelostsoul89 Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 19 is not a lot for a woman that is 31.... Either get over it or move on, it's not like she or anyone can change their past.
guccichick Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Her past is her past.. try to think about a future with her instead. You can be missing out on something great if you focus on something she's done when she was younger.
stillafool Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 I think you should break up with her because you will never be able to get over it.
Binster Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Take alook on the infidelity postings, women who had three or four sexual partners before the mariage and then ten years in decide they want to play. Your girl sounds like she's got things in the right order. Dont worry about being her first lover work on being her last.
BS76 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 (edited) Hello, My name is Spartacis...I cant get over my girlfriends pass. So here is the deal. The girl i have been dating for 11 months is four years older than me, 31. She is smokin hot and I am 100% attracted to her physically. I want to love her with all my heart but I am having a reallly hard time getting over her pass number of men she has slept with, 19 (i have selpt with 6 women including her). Most of which were when she was between the ages of 16-21...like i think 12 or 13 of them were. She says she has tried a threesome with a two guys but never went through with it (was about to but never did). She also says she let a guy **** her and then **** another girl right after...this was when she was younger keep in mind. Is 19 guys too many?!?!?! Am I crazy for caring? She has a big tatoo right below her bellybutton but is currently having it laser removed...Everytime i see the thing I think of her Slutty pass. She still has a bunch of holes in ears from ear piercings, a worn hole in her tongue from a tounge ring, and has a clit ring (which I like). I am not sure if i should just get over it and not care? All these things make me think she was a slut. She says she never had a one night stand and never cheated. I really like this girl, especially sex wise...What should I do??? Thanks Burned! Dude, you can't make a ho into a housewife. You got the classic bait & switch woman. She slept around with bad boys in her youth and now that's getting older and wants a nice guy to settle down with now that she's "reformed". Also, she's actually had about 3x as many guys as she admitted to. You're just setting yourself up for failure. Start reading, but brace yourself for some uncomfortable truths: http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/06/17/the-end-of-beta-providers/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/05/19/beta-or-herb/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/05/13/spinsterhood-bastard-children-are-our-future/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/02/01/the-wall/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/21/the-beta-crisis-of-american-men-marrying-older-women/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/02/girl-screws-tucker-max-broadcasts-her-sluttiness/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/08/21/sluts-are-not-less-discriminating/ http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/01/29/32-vs-21/ Edited June 27, 2010 by BS76
VideoKid Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 posts like this upset me. my ex could never get over my sexual past and spent our entire relationship calling me a slut and bringing it up inappropriately, despite the fact my past isn't that explicit at all! i just wasn't a pure white virgin for him. i got rid of him and now have an amazing guy who accepts me for who i am, he would never call me names and thinks to the future and not the past. you're going to spend your entire relationship resenting her so do both of you a favour and end it before she resents you. By the way, piercings and tattoos do not indicate a slut. My boyfriend is a tattooist so we're both heavily tattooed and have piercings as do a majority of my friends, some of whom are happily married and have children so please don't be so quick to judge.
JohnM Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Don't see a problem with tattoos myself. My gf has about 5, one of them is her exes initials in a half heart on her collarbone. That bothers me slightly, but I can deal with it and shes getting that covered. That, I feel is understandable. Just random tattoos? Thats part of her personality.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Hello, My name is Spartacis...I cant get over my girlfriends pass. So here is the deal. The girl i have been dating for 11 months is four years older than me, 31. She is smokin hot and I am 100% attracted to her physically. I want to love her with all my heart but I am having a reallly hard time getting over her pass number of men she has slept with, 19 (i have selpt with 6 women including her). Most of which were when she was between the ages of 16-21...like i think 12 or 13 of them were. She says she has tried a threesome with a two guys but never went through with it (was about to but never did). She also says she let a guy **** her and then **** another girl right after...this was when she was younger keep in mind. Is 19 guys too many?!?!?! Am I crazy for caring? She has a big tatoo right below her bellybutton but is currently having it laser removed...Everytime i see the thing I think of her Slutty pass. She still has a bunch of holes in ears from ear piercings, a worn hole in her tongue from a tounge ring, and has a clit ring (which I like). I am not sure if i should just get over it and not care? All these things make me think she was a slut. She says she never had a one night stand and never cheated. I really like this girl, especially sex wise...What should I do??? Thanks You aren't getting anywhere near far enough into the "past"... What happened between ages 16 and 21 is merely a symptom. You've been with her for 11 months and clearly don't even "know" her.
TheLoneSock Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 Why does no one realize that this sh*t is from almost 2 months ago. Some idiot bumped it. The OP hasn't posted since May 15th.
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