jthorne Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 Wimp wasn't the word I had for him. I'm not convinced he's bipolar, but I am convinced he's sick. I'm glad you're keeping NC.
fooled once Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Thanks again, everyone. I have been serously pondering the whole bipolar possibility lately. I always thought of a bipolar as manic then depressed, but maybe not so in his case. He has had instances of being what I would say for him is a manic type of state-- rambling on about our "future" and how he wants to love my girls and take care of us and be the best man he can be for us.... then 8 hours later saying "I'm working on my M." No way this is normal, not even in the most messed-up man. So maybe he really does have bipolar tendencies. And YES... had I made the 3.5-hour drive to him this past Friday, he wouldn't have been working on his M that night... he would have been working on ME! LOL He only uses the "working on the M" angle when he gets scared, freaks out, has a friend or relative tell him he has to go back to his W, etc. He's a WIMP. Plain and simple! NC continues!!!!!! I don't believe he is bi-polar either. I think people (in general) like to throw around terms to explain behavior. Bi-polar is not funny, it is a debilitating disease and it took the life of a friend of mine. No one should be diagnosing anyone unless they are a trained professional who has personal knowledge of this person and their life. So when was the last time you talked to him?
White Flower Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Sorry to TJ, but that is me too, why do we have these psychic moments with our MMs? I knew also when he was about to cancel our meeting, usually just a few hours before. I could feel it. I feel I have never been so in touch with anyone in my life. I Miss - Do you think he sensed you were thinking about him? I know that sounds mad, but I have texted MM and got a message before I even sent it. And we only texted once or twice a day and not at the same time. Weird. To be fair to him, it is only to be expected that he will have his weak moments and you should not blame him for that if he loved you. It is horrible all this flip flopping isn't it? Seems MM do it more than MW/OW. Mostly like has been discussed many times, that MM stay more than MW for mostly reasons not related to love. At least you know that he still wants you, better than never hearing anything again and wondering if it was all worth it.You should start a thread on this. I have countless stories on funny feelings. I'm right just about every time. Sometimes I think it is just because I know him well and that we're just so connected but other times it is unexplainable to me.
Author I Miss the Kiss Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 So when was the last time you talked to him? The last contact I had was that Saturday morning after this past Friday night when he texted asking me to come see him and I didn't. The next morning he texted that he shouldn't have "chatted me up" and he was working on his M. That was it. Nothing since.
bittersweet memories Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Wimp wasn't the word I had for him. I'm not convinced he's bipolar, but I am convinced he's sick. I'm glad you're keeping NC. Other posters were convince he is a Narcissist...this guy has been diagnosed with all kinds of disorders. This guy is a cheater who doesn't know what he wants plain and simple.
bittersweet memories Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 You should start a thread on this. I have countless stories on funny feelings. I'm right just about every time. Sometimes I think it is just because I know him well and that we're just so connected but other times it is unexplainable to me. I believe we ALL have had those moments towards the once we love. That includes our husbands, boyfriends, MM, MW and even friends. It happens to me all the time. I joke around that I'm psychic..
jthorne Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I believe we ALL have had those moments towards the once we love. That includes our husbands, boyfriends, MM, MW and even friends. It happens to me all the time. I joke around that I'm psychic.. Yep. That happened with my grandma all the time.
White Flower Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I believe we ALL have had those moments towards the once we love. That includes our husbands, boyfriends, MM, MW and even friends. It happens to me all the time. I joke around that I'm psychic..You're right, it happens to people in all Rs. I think the OP meant that perhaps it was rare in the MM/OP sitch because we don't have the access that regular Rs have but what do I know. My brother used to tell me I was psychic all the time. I said, naw, just insightful.
MizzBlue72 Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Good job!! You finally get it ... it's all about him!!! I think this is a great post!!!
Fieldsofgold Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Other posters were convince he is a Narcissist...this guy has been diagnosed with all kinds of disorders. This guy is a cheater who doesn't know what he wants plain and simple. I'm thinking this right here is the diagnosis. You're doing great! Stay strong!
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