daddypop1 Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 I dont know how to accept my situation. I had been with this woman for 13 yrs and she left me in October. She had cheated on me quite a few times. In the past she has said that she loves me and is sorry, that it was never my fault, she was screwed up. But she says this time is different. She was going to leave me anyway and the relationship she is in now happened after we split up. I know that it started before she left. Apparently now she realizes that she cheated on me all these times cuz she was never in love with me, just comfortable with the relationship. Thats why she always cheated. She had tried to come back to me 3 times now, even tho she quickly changed her mind on all occasions but 1. This last time we actually stopped the divorce and she broke up with her great boyfriend. She wanted to try since she has changed so much and give it a chance. That lasted 2 weeks then she decided she couldnt do it anymore. She immediately got back with her boyfriend. I am severely pissed off... I never asked for much and I know she is treating this douchebag better than she has EVER treated me. I was talking to her before we split up again and she actually blamed me for allowing all this to happen. Like i enabled her. She also told me that she could see herself marrying this guy and that he could be her soul mate. 9 times out of 10 she only had sex with me to make me happy. Any ****ing reason that all this **** needs to be said to me???????? It really makes me mad that she gets along with this guy so well and they have no problems at all. She is able to give herself to him so much when I didnt get even a fraction of that after 13 yrs. Her whole family really likes him. I want revenge bad.... I want this guy to get ****ed with as bad as I did. They have been friends for 6 months and then in a relationship for 7 and have had no problems at all. Are u ****ing kidding me??? She treated me worse than anyone ever has and she can treat this guy so great?? I thought of her as a friend and wife and she never did. Was just good at pretending. I am so ****ing pissed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author daddypop1 Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 I will post a reply to myself.... U r a dumbass and obviously couldnt fill ur wifes needs so she found someone else. She never really loved u and only stayed with u cuz she was comfortable in the relationship. She cheated on u multiple times and this probably wouldve happened sooner if the OM wouldve wanted to continue a relationship with her. Ya i enabled her. I shouldnt of taken her back so many times but I did. I really loved her and wanted to be there for her. It is upsetting to see her on facebook with pictures of the other guy and she looks happy. Her comments seem like she is really happy. She thinks she tried 100% with me but she never did. Before I was thinking that she will revert back to her old ways and cheat on him at some point, but know im not so sure. Maybe it was just her being with me for 13 yrs since we were 18 and she was never in love with me. Doesnt make me feel any better at all. She cheated on me alot and also with my brother...I dont feel good at all in knowing that she worked out all her **** on me and now has changed and is so in love and happy. This sucks bad and I really want to beat this guys ass : (
hopesndreams Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 It's ok to be angry, it's all part of the process. All those betrayed experience self-hatred as well. The work you must do now is to not hate yourself. You didn't make her cheat, she owns that 100%. Stop looking at her facebook. Deal with the past hurts and have no more future hurts heaped on you. You aren't the bad person here.
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