alltoomuch Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 help I found out last week that my partner of 2 years had been going online meeting new girls and arranging to meet up with them whilst i was at work. i found out by accident and obvioulsy was very hurt and upset. After going to work in tears the next day my friends convinced me that the best option was to end it. The night before he said that he loved me but not in the same way and that i had been annoying him so much it lead him to this. I have been suffering from depression for other problems and he took this as that i was being cold with him, i needed his help not for him to walk away. anyway. he said that he didnt know what he wanted so on my friends advices i ended it, i suddenly had a bought of did i end it too soon and maybe we could have worked it out. but by then he decided that it was the best to do and infact it feels like i have let him off the hook. I have tried sooo hard to severe contact with him but because of my belongings being at this house etc we have had to talk to get these returned, plus he is seeing my friens (who he met through me) for drinks etc. it is really hard because i want to talk to my friends about everything but they dont want to get involved, the only person i have is my mum and dad and to be honest i need friends not them. they want the best for me. after succeeding to have two days of no talking to him he then contacts me ... confusing the hell out of me and making it hard for me to resist to talk to. I love him so much and it is hurting so much that i cant speak to him but i know i have to let go. i just wish he would do the same. any ideas what he is upto. thanks for your help. x
Ilovecake Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 (edited) Not only did he betray you and your trust but he's blaming you for it. Would you feel good about yourself being with a person like that? Personally I couldn't look in the mirror if I stayed with a person who said and did something that horrible to me. The only reason he's contacting you is to boost his ego further. I mean he has this new girl and his ex still wants him so I'm sure he's feeling pretty powerful right about now. Read the other threads here and you will see that almost every single dumper has contacted the dumpee and it's always for their own egotistical reasons. Get your stuff from him, sever all contact even if he makes the first move, and move on with your life. Edited May 15, 2010 by Ilovecake
GrayClouds Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 This guy is garbage not only is he a cheat he tries to blame you for his behavior. You really need to go no contact so you can heal form this bad drug called your Ex and more importantly get strong so you never allow yourself to waste your time with such a destructive individual again. You deserve so much more, now lets work on believing that. Good luck and keep posting.
alexlakeman Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 If he contacts you again...IGNORE IT!! Don't make this guy feel powerful over you. I really can't believe he had the audacity to blame his cheating on you for "annoying him" What a loser! You deserve so much better. Go out and meet new guys! Do not give this loser another thought. This guy is garbage not only is he a cheat he tries to blame you for his behavior. You really need to go no contact so you can heal form this bad drug called your Ex and more importantly get strong so you never allow yourself to waste your time with such a destructive individual again. You deserve so much more, now lets work on believing that. Good luck and keep posting. Not only did he betray you and your trust but he's blaming you for it. Would you feel good about yourself being with a person like that? ===================Get your stuff from him, sever all contact even if he makes the first move, and move on with your life. THe three responses sound like they are single an bitter... guess you have to be there to really feel what's its like and know what to do, love doesn't make sense at times.. Good luck, OP..
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