Always A Lesson Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 He must have gone to see the Wizard and gained some courage & heart...... OK, After 7 months he decides to call, I see his number on my radar (caller ID). Hey, I had cut him loose to go back into the marriage and do whatever he had to do.....I went strict NC...I was assuming he was with the W all happy and content and all.... and then he calls but leaves no message......... I actually know the drill, IGNOR it, which I did. Just wanted to hear LS tell me I did the right thing. He threw me a breadcrumb to see how I'd respond? Testing the waters.... Right??? Things must be not be as lovey,dovey has intended...I guess. I will continue NC and continue to heal.. LS taught me well...
2sunny Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 every relationship has good and bad days/times. he's most likely experiencing a rough patch and decided he wanted some attention/ego feed from you. he only reached out to benefit himself. you did well to ignore feeding his ego. i'm sure if you had answered he would have pretended it was to see how you are doing - then the clencher - he would want to start up again. this is not in your best interest if no contact is allowing you the luxury of healing and moving forward in your growth and happiness without him. stay strong - stay on track - do not give him your power back - do not give him the luxury of wasting another minute of your time. do not answer.
Ilovecake Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Good for you. You did exactly the right thing. First of all you should not be involved with a married man, secondly he's a complete jerk, thirdly is lion not lien.
Author Always A Lesson Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 Thank you both. Your words keep strengthening me. I have come so far. When I look back I get angry because I was so hurt. I remember day 1 of NC, I couldn't even move out of bed, it was horrible. There's nothing like experiencing pain of the heart, wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I haven't started dating. I'm focusing on me right now, and keeping my cup open (which means being upbeat,positive and smiling when I come across interesting males). Oh, I bet Mr. Cowardly Lyin' (play on words) can't believe, I'm gone, he's used to getting what he wants. Bet he's baffled. Love the power it gives me!
Author Always A Lesson Posted May 16, 2010 Author Posted May 16, 2010 Oh, Ilovecake, when I met him he said he was separated and had filed for divorce and waiting for the decree, to later find out he never did file. He was making future plans with me, as he slept with the W. I know he's really pissed because, he lost me for life. I fell off that string he kept me on! I'm actually in the numb stage now, when I saw his number, I didn't even recognize it. I've reclaimed my life, I'm not exactly happy but I am back to functioning again.
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