alexlakeman Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Yes, I cheated on her...we were trying to work it out.. for about a month, I finally gave her a choice,either we get back together or forget it, she chose the forget it choice... Within a few days I started dating someone, hoping I would forget about her, as I had always done in the past... a month after dating the new woman, I couldn't forget, I broke it off with her 3-4 days ago. I coudn't get my ex off my mind.... I sent her flower for mothers day, she texts me back, "don't send me anything, move on".... yesterday, i text her and she said she's in a relationship and can't talk to me... If she loved me sooo much, how could she be over it so quickly (we dated 8 months)? Just a rebound guy to forget about me, as I tried to do? I have had to be on meds for about a week to be able to relax; now I am afraid of meeting new women, incase she comes back .. she won't even talk to me.. I tried to just ignore calling her, texting , etc.. so I took her contact info off my cell, but sometimes it gets to be too much... I cheated b/c I was insecure, couldn't believe she was as much into me long term ... Do women ever come back at this point? To cope? Terrible, comfort food, I eat vs not eating like some, drink sometimes, and take prescription meds to calm me down.... I feel like a kid, I can't remember ever feeling this way for years, I usually move on and just forget about it... this time is different. I want to start seeing someone else to try to forget, but what if she comes back ? Plus it's tough to be with someeone, she you still have feeling for an ex, but it does make thing a little better
northstar1 Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Well, the cheating most likely did enough damage to mean she won't come back. At least not any time soon. My suggestion is to respect her request not to contact her and focus on you. You aren't ready to date someone new, you need to heal and work on yourself and figure out why you cheated and build your self esteem. Dating someone now is unfair to that person, and it is only a temporary solution. Take some time to learn about yourself, and what will make you happy and be able to have a good relationship in the future.
norajane Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 As bad as you feel now to have lost her, multiply that by 10 and you'll know how she felt when she found out you had cheated on her. What she knows now is that you are a person who is capable of making her feel that bad, and she doesn't want you in her life because of it. All you can do is learn from this experience, and eventually move on. You're right not to date anyone else while you still feel this way about your ex - it's not fair to date anyone now.
hurtandheartbroken Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 If she loved me sooo much, how could she be over it so quickly (we dated 8 months)? You DARE to question HER?? If YOU loved HER SOOO much, how the heck could you even stick it in someone ELSE since you adored this girlfriend? Seeing her all the time knowing what you did? Your reasoning is ridiculous. You should have left then and found someone more suited for you instead of self sabotaging something good. Where's the woman you cheated with now? Go to her. You started dating someone "within a few days" to "get over her" ok, so she can't do the same? You wanted another woman, and your ex chose to give you the freedom for it. You wanted it, you got it. Don't question how she can move on. It's no longer any of your business and she doesn't WANT it your business. There is NO excuse for cheating! This is the consequence of it; sometimes they DON'T want you back, once the trust is gone, that's it for some people, they won't subject themselves to that level of potential hurt again. I'm sure she DID love you SOOO much but because of what you did, you destroyed that.
SoleMate Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Do women ever come back at this point? Perhaps some do, but it does not appear likely that this one will. Sorry.
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