collegemommy Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Have you ever gotten up in the morning and realized you just don't care? I got up this morning and realized, I seriously just don't care anymore. My ex is still telling me I'm "the one" and he only sees me in his future but I don't care. I'm not sad, I'm not mad, I can even sit here and think about him being with this new girl. That thought use to make me sick but I feel nothing about it now. If she makes him happy, good for them. I hope they work out. It's too soon for me to be over the relationship since it was a long term thing and we have been apart for 1.5 months now. I can't imagine I will feel like this from here on out. Does anyone have experience with this? Is this just part of the roller coaster or am I actually moving on?
cmichael16 Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Everyone is different, I have had entire weeks of being like that, then boom. Its been 3 months this sunday and I am still on the lower side
paleblue Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 totally. it feels good to realize you really don’t care what is going on with them. I work with mine. so I get emails. it used to tear me up. now I don’t care. I can also sit here and think about her being with this new guy and I think good for you!! I already wished her the best of luck. now when I hear from her its basically just annoying. its like what’s wrong now??? are you ok? its going to be ok. you will be fine wah wah wah. I just don’t care. I can never take her back. I don’t trust her anymore. it took me a lot longer than 1.5months, more like over 1.5 years, so you are doing good at 1.5 months. you probably are moving on. but I would also say if it was a long term relationship… and its only been 1.5 months… than you will still have those good and bad days. but it sounds like you are off to a good start. I hope you don’t make the mistake of taking him back when the day comes and his new relationship falls apart and he is looking for comfort in familiar territory. as far as I am concerned that is a load of garbage him telling you that you are "the one". if he was "the one" he wouldn’t be in some other chicks pants. period. do yourself a favor and cut his sorry a** out of your life permanently. i wish i could do that with mine.
freckles3131 Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 I felt the same way last week and was so thrilled to feel that way....THEN....today, not so much. Struggling again. So my answer for me personally is "rollarcoaster
Author collegemommy Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 totally. it feels good to realize you really don’t care what is going on with them. I work with mine. so I get emails. it used to tear me up. now I don’t care. I can also sit here and think about her being with this new guy and I think good for you!! I already wished her the best of luck. now when I hear from her its basically just annoying. its like what’s wrong now??? are you ok? its going to be ok. you will be fine wah wah wah. I just don’t care. I can never take her back. I don’t trust her anymore. it took me a lot longer than 1.5months, more like over 1.5 years, so you are doing good at 1.5 months. you probably are moving on. but I would also say if it was a long term relationship… and its only been 1.5 months… than you will still have those good and bad days. but it sounds like you are off to a good start. I hope you don’t make the mistake of taking him back when the day comes and his new relationship falls apart and he is looking for comfort in familiar territory. as far as I am concerned that is a load of garbage him telling you that you are "the one". if he was "the one" he wouldn’t be in some other chicks pants. period. do yourself a favor and cut his sorry a** out of your life permanently. i wish i could do that with mine. Well, unfortunately, I can't just kick him out permanently. We have a child together so I'm forever stuck dealing with him. I don't think I have mentioned this on any of the posts (although I could be wrong), he moved out awhile ago. He was staying, I assume, at the new girlfriends house for the first couple of weeks. His two kids from a previous relationship stayed with his parents until he got an apartment. His mom just quit her job a couple of months ago (I have no idea why but his parents are financially well off anyway). She now gets up every morning, drives to his apartment, gets the kids dressed, feeds them breakfast, takes them to school, picks them up from school and feeds them dinner. All he does is give them a bath and put them to bed. I have our daughter and I do all those things without any help at all from him. I haven't even filed for child support... I'm telling you all that because when his mother decides to back off (and she will when she gets mad at him which happens about every 3 months), him and this new girl are going to face reality. With his two kids from a previous relationship and her two kids from a previous relationship, I can see how he would not be happy with the outcome. He can barely take care of the three kids he has now, how in the world can he be a step parent? Plus, she will be the one taking care of the kids... She is younger than we are (23) so I can't see her being content with taking care of him and his kids for the rest of her life. I have no intentions of ever taking him back. If he wanted to be with me, he would be already. None of the games would be going, no tears would be shed. We would work through our issues and go forward. I only worry that one day he will be serious about coming back to me. I don't know if I will ever be strong enough to say no for a second time. The first time was easy since I don't take him seriously at the moment. When he comes to me in a serious manner, then I'll have problems.
Author collegemommy Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 I felt the same way last week and was so thrilled to feel that way....THEN....today, not so much. Struggling again. So my answer for me personally is "rollarcoaster Ugh...I hate the sadness. I really, really, really hope that I don't go through it again. I feel numb at the moment and I like this feeling. I like feeling nothing when it comes to him. Hope you start feeling better soon...
Author collegemommy Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 Everyone is different, I have had entire weeks of being like that, then boom. Its been 3 months this sunday and I am still on the lower side I'm sorry to hear that... I can't see myself feeling down in 3 months. I could be wrong but I've never been in a breakup relationship where I wasn't at least mostly over it by then. Then again, this was my longest relationship and with a guy I've been friends with since our toddler years. Only time will tell.
Cantcope Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 How does today have you feeling? Hopefully still on the up!!!
Author collegemommy Posted May 17, 2010 Author Posted May 17, 2010 I'm still feeling pretty good today. I have little moments here and there where I feel down. I mostly feel sad for my daughter. Other than that, what he does with his life is his problem. He tried to ask me for help this morning with his kids this evening. I ignored him and he sent me a text saying nevermind. He also tried to call but again, I ignored him. I'm tired of listening to him talk. He still keeps texting me about working things out and loving me. I have ignored all of them today. I just can't take his crap anymore... I told him mom (who I talked to earlier today) that when he is ready to be serious about working things out, I will listen to what he has to say. That doesn't me we will get back together but I will hear him out. Until then, I'm moving on with my life. I don't need him or his drama.
Author collegemommy Posted May 17, 2010 Author Posted May 17, 2010 No excuse for Friday... Personally, I don't care what his reasoning was. It's better that I don't see him. I know it sucks that he doesn't come by to see our daughter but I did call his mom and asked her to help watch my daughter once a week during the summer. So apparently this will be the day of the week where she will have a "family" dinner. This will allow him to spend about 2 hours a week with her at the minimum. It's better than nothing and it would allow me to avoid him. Plus, our daughter is going out of state for 4 weeks this summer so I will have no reason to be in contact with him... So I'm moving on. YAY!
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