Is this for real? Or is it another tease?

[aroll32]

Hello all. Well, I've had some posts a while ago about this situation, but now it's a little more active. Here's some background info: Over winter break I "dated" this girl who I thought was amazing. After a couple good dates and hanging out at each other's house, it seemed like she was genuinely interested in carrying our relationship forward. Well I was mistaken. We go to schools an hour away so I guess that's one of the reasons why. We both live in the same city, and she goes to school there.

 

Anyways, I have occasionally talked to her over the past 4-5 months. Mostly small talk, birthdays, etc. I ran into her a couple weeks back and well, I felt a little uncomfortable around her. I'm not sure why. After this, I did some thinking about all of it. And eventually, I came to the final conclusion. I don't like this girl that much, she's smart and cute and everything, but she's just not worth my time. I don't mean to sound arrogant, but hey, that's how I feel.

 

So on to the part that requires your help. Lately she's been texting me about a couple things that are quite interesting. First, she wanted to get the job that I had already applied for. Then she has this sheet for classes I need to take next semester, and has told me she wants give it to me when I get in town. Today she said she is getting a job right by my house over the summer. Now, I don't see these as signs of her interest, but it did cause me to give it a second thought. I am not going to be fooled again by this girl's mind games, mostly because I choose not to make contact with her.

 

So what are your thoughts? Should I even give this girl a second chance? She did hurt me, so I'm pretty reluctant to being open to her. Part of me wants to see how things go when I get into town, and possibly ask her out for a casual date or something. I'll never know if she's still interested unless I ask her out right? Or should I just let this one go and think of her as an acquaintance (what I think of her now)?

[sigurpol]

Sounds a little like my situations from time to time.

 

Anyway, at first glance, I wouldn't put too much thought into it. If you've already made up your mind at one point, that this girl isn't your type, no need to complicate things and force it, just to see "what happens".

 

But, that's just me.

[aroll32]

I hear you, I just have incredibly mixed feelings on the whole thing. It's hard to really say what I want, which is probably a good indication I should avoid at all costs. It's just I don't want to write it off and have her intentions be true. I know it's a long shot but whatever. I can definitely say I'm over thinking too much into this whole thing (it doesn't make sense to me so I just gave up), but I am still a little interested so yeah.

[phineas]

you like her, but she's a flake.

Been there, not wound up dateing that.

 

It's like they make it so obvious that their messing with you, that you think your wrong.

 

I don't know why some women do this.

Keep contacting you when they know you are interested but their not.

 

I mean I know why they do it, for attention but I don't know what it is that makes someone seek it that way.

[aroll32]

See, I wouldn't put her in the flake category. She has flaked out on me once, but other than that she would always follow through.

 

Right now I don't think she's messing with me. She has been contacting me more and more and I keep playing it off. I think she may realize that I'm not as interested in her as I was. Which is true, I was infatuated with her. Now I think she's a cool girl, attractive and such, but nothing spectacular.

 

She didn't mess with me until she was in the process of deciding to reject me. And even now, I don't think she knows if I am interested. I barely contact her, and when I do, she always responds. When she contacts me, I'll limit my response, and sometimes not even give one.

 

Other than the past few days...we were kinda flirting last night, and I could tell she was diggin it