marencolleen Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 so I met this guy at school when I went in for tutoring. we talked a little bit about how it's hard to find people our age (I'm 23 and he's 27) in our town who don't have kids. I gave him my number thinking maybe we could strike up a friendship, but it's not going that way. I hardly know him. The two times we've met up he doesn't ever say much. I'm not sure about what sort of person he is, but I'm already on guard merely by the fact that he is in the army. (my ex was in the army and it was a very bad relationship and quite honestly out of that two year relationship, I only met one person actually enlisted in the army that I didn't totally clash with.) I've made it very clear that I don't want a boyfriend or anything close to it right now, yet when I talk to him, he always works in hints about what he wants in a relationship. Anytime I try to friendly text him and see how things are, he tries to get me to come to his house to watch a movie. I don't really know this guy. From all indicators that I've gotten from him, he doesn't want to be just friends. Those two factors makes me very very hesitant to want to go to his house alone. How do I kindly tell him that I don't know or trust him enough to be alone with him? How do I get him to stop dropping hints about relationships? How do I get him to say something other than "I should do a deployment soon so I don't have to worry about leaving a girlfriend behind" and "you should come over, I have a flat screen HDTV"?
Green Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 I think its kind of lame he only invites u to his place. He most likely wants to F u hard. Your best bet is to make friends with some one else.
ulquiorra Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 hmhm just be your self you can also ask him out with other ppl. well some ppl cant stand crowds etc. that would be ppl like me. dosent mean where LAME. its just what we like to do. well hes hard to get to rly know. i dont think hes going to harm you tho. and besides if you only want to be friends and you dont even like hanging with him maby its not such a good idea anyways.
Author marencolleen Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 hmhm just be your self you can also ask him out with other ppl. yeah I did this. I asked if he wanted to get some people together and go to the theaters and he just replied "I'm not into groups, thanks tho" and never said another word.
green_tea Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Just tell him you only want to be friends..doesn't sound as though you've actually said that to him. Regarding going to his house, I'm glad you are being cautious, and just tell him you don't know him well enough yet - I am sure he will understand - any reasonable person would.
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