brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Where do you think is the best sort of place for a woman to go to meet guys? I'm tired of the internet thing to meet people, I don't know if I've out grown it or what but it seems like I'll email someone and it will be obvious that they want to meet women, but they can't even email back. Or we email and text a little and then they want to immediatly jump to booty calls. Does no one date anymore? You know, call up the girl, suggest an activity to take place in a few days, and then go do it? I'm not ugly. I'm not stupid. I'm fairly successful and I'm nice to people. I know there are a lot of "poor me" threads up lately, but really, I am so tired of either being blown off or treated like I am only worth the sex someone could have with me.
VertexSquared Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 I've found that Internet dating works well if you have an interesting profile -- similarly, only go for people that have interesting profiles as well.
Engadget Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 I've only met potential dates through other people so far (not set up, they were just invited) so i'd say parties and things of that nature. Me? I hate the bar/club scene. I guess it's alright if you just want to get laid, but not for anything else.
Author brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 keep trying....there are some that will love to have you no matter what. do You do long distance? I've tried one time. I met someone through a blog I read and we hit it off on a purely intellectual/emotional level. He had made plans to come visit and then abruptly called it all off less than a week before the visit. Since then I try to keep things closer to home. Not completely opposed, but not completely into it either.
Author brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 I've only met potential dates through other people so far (not set up, they were just invited) so i'd say parties and things of that nature. Me? I hate the bar/club scene. I guess it's alright if you just want to get laid, but not for anything else. I could make one or two phone calls and get laid tonight. That's not what I want. Maybe I'm looking for too much, that is to say someone in my life who cares for me and I can care for and we can spend time with each other share goals and interests, support each other in hard times, laugh in good ones. What I am finding is a string of people wanting to be F----buddies.
Engadget Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 I could make one or two phone calls and get laid tonight. That's not what I want. Maybe I'm looking for too much, that is to say someone in my life who cares for me and I can care for and we can spend time with each other share goals and interests, support each other in hard times, laugh in good ones. What I am finding is a string of people wanting to be F----buddies. Me too, I'm staying away from jumping in girls pants and I think they don't trust me because they're so used to men doing just that. I slept on the couch at a girls house last night when I easily could have went up to her bedroom and hopped in bed with her. I didn't, and prior to the events I told her I'm looking to get to know any women I meet BEFORE anything happens. I've had enough one night stands to know I don't like them, so I'm taking it slow on purpose.
Author brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 The best place to meet men is to go skydiving I hate to be a pansy, but I am afraid of heights. I don't even like watching videos of roller coasters, let alone actual sky diving.
Author brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 but once you do it you wont be afraid anymore I will take your word for it. (although I think you'd have to knock me out to get me out of the plane)
TouchedByViolet Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Have you tried rock climbing? or a co-ed sport you enjoy? You sound like a catch so I'm sure you won't be single for long
sagetalk Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 I'm not ugly. I'm not stupid. I'm fairly successful and I'm nice to people. I know there are a lot of "poor me" threads up lately, but really, I am so tired of either being blown off or treated like I am only worth the sex someone could have with me. To be fair, your poor me thread is no where near as sad as some of the guys. What guy posts a poor me thread that people just want to have sex with them. Most guys here are posting they only ever get blown off. Yeah, I'm crying like a baby for you. If you want to date men that want you for more than sex, then you're going to have to make the first move sometimes. Also, you will have to start working to increase your self esteem. The lower your self esteem, the more loser/jerks you will attract. Start observing the types of guys who treat their girlfriends with respect, and then go find one.
TouchedByViolet Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 If you want to date men that want you for more than sex, then you're going to have to make the first move sometimes. Also, you will have to start working to increase your self esteem. The lower your self esteem, the more loser/jerks you will attract. Start observing the types of guys who treat their girlfriends with respect, and then go find one. Sage you give a ton of great advice.
Author brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 I like to hike. I sometimes take my god out to some local trails, but i feel like I end up off in my own world while I'm hiking, must be doing something wrong. I don't know about watching other couples without seeming like a creeper. I know how I want to be treated and don't let people treat me otherwise. I think I'd be coupled if I let guys get away with more.
Engadget Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Sage you give a ton of great advice. Yes, very accurate.
Author brainygirl Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 If they don't live with their mothers. Have a car and a decent house, pay their child support if they owe it, have a decent IQ and do more than play multi-player online games for fun, I'd be happy to.
Philetus Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Have you tried speed dating? I find it far superior to online dating. I've heard from some of my lady friends that Home Depot is a good place to go, too.
ADF Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 For some segment of the population, dating hs indeed gone by the wayside. It has been supplanted by the so-called "hook-up culture," which revolves around spontaneous, often drunklen encounters between strangers that often lead nowhere. Men often love the hook-up culture; women tend to like it a lot less. That said, the best way to meet people is through shared interests and/activities. It is a cliche, but so true. People in these situations are less guarded and less prone to posturing. Plus, you know you have at least one thing in common.
joeLove Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Where do you live? Have you tried social dancing like East/West Coast Swing or Latin Dance or Hip hop classes? How about the fitness and health clubs, Running club, Biking/Mountain Biking and so fort? I believe you can use meet up dot com or some site like that and join some groups .. or learn a new language ... who knows ... you might meet people that way ... try to be creative and open minded and curious.
skydiveaddict Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 is a good place to start it's not as scary as you think
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