Butterflair Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 It's been six months since my separation, I'm at the half way point. In North Carolina you have to be separated a year before you can get the divorce. Most days I'm doing well, I don't don't want him back but I miss him as the "father/grandfather" figure in the family. He's missing out on so much. He comes by every week to see my older son (31) and his grandkids (3 and 3 weeks) since they live with me. I'm able to see him and talk to him but only on a certain level. We can talk about the kids, the weather, general things but we don't talk about anything deep, nor do I want to. I think it would be easier if I didn't have to see him at all. His mood ranges from nice/happy to pensive/mopey/down. This week it was the down one like he has regrets. He is still living with the OW (half his age and the ex-gf of my younger son) so I doubt he's in the regret/sorry stages yet. Our 33rd Anniversary is coming up on July 1st. Does this count toward our total time married? I've been saying 32 years, I know it's a small point and I'm not sure how to handle the day. I'm wondering if it's better to be busy doing something else. I'm not looking to date or for another man but if one fell in my lap, I'd go out I guess. I'm going to Italy next week for 10 days with cousins. I still have the days where I'm sad about everything and I think about how this all went wrong. It comes in waves. I don't wake up and go to bed thinking about him so I think that's good.
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