leeroyuk45 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 hey all ive been seeing this girl on and off since march who ive begun to develop feelings for. to cut a long story short, things have been really strange ever since she came back from holiday. it can either be going really well or she can be really cold and distant. Most recently she asked to meet up last weekend. When we first met things were going really great, there was a lot of chemistry and when we sat down, she was all over me. After a drink, she and her friend went to a club that we arranged to meet later. when we met up, she began to act really strange. Near the end of the night i found her outside where i told her i was leaving to which she didnt seem at all interested. Her body language had completely changed and she wouldn't engage in any sort of fun with me at all. When i was leaving, she told me that she wanted to see me again and would txt me when she knew what her rota at work was. I asked for a kiss on the cheek to which she hesitated to at first but then finally agreed to. that was Saturday and ive heard nothing from her! In my weakness i txt her today asking how she was, to which she replied but again, she was very distant and cold. she said she was busy at work and that we'll speak soon. ive acted pretty cool all the way through this but if im honest its driving me crazy not knowing where i stand with her. would it be worth asking her whats going on between us? as much as i like her, id rather know if im wasting my time or not. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, as its really beginning to get me down cheers
hahaYO super serial Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Something happened when she was on holiday. Just forget it unless she comes to you.
CuriousQDe Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I behaved badly like this once because I was in the throes of a break-up. It's like this: perfectly nice, handsome guy who is a great catch is interested, but I want the one who let me go. I was trying my best to be present and in the moment for the new guy because he was wonderful and didn't deserve my inattention. But my mind was going 100mph wondering what the old guy was doing and why this was happening and trying not to cry at dinner, and waiting for his return phone call or text. It was awful, no one deserves to be treated that way. Take a step back and let whatever is going on play itself out.
phineas Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Sounds like she met someone else who interests her more & she's back burner'd you just in case. Fall off the face of the earth. Don't respond to her unless she is specifically asking you to do something.
Author leeroyuk45 Posted May 13, 2010 Author Posted May 13, 2010 in actual fact, she was the one who got in touch with me after she got back! she went travelling for 3 weeks with a friend and to be honest i half expected not to hear from her. When she got back, she was pretty down in the dumps as is to be expected and had this epiphany that she wants to travel again. shes been back almost a month now too Shes also just got a 2nd job so she can save up to go travelling at the end of the year- im all supportive of this, i would never stand in the way of somebodies goals- you gotta do what you gotta do you know? the thing is, ive no idea why she shes acting stange with me, at the end of the day she either wants to see me or not, id rather know- im just not sure whether or not i should lay it out and be straight with her, as i wouldnt want to potentially ruin something that could happen between us by acting needy
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