Pfiend101 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 So I've gone on a couple dates with this girl. Kissed on the second not a big deal. She has been texting me non stop really long texts like 4 sentence texts. Even when I'm not sending anything back I will get 3-4 of these long texts. Shes a nice girl but not sure how to handle this. I dont think shes the one just think she might be fun to date. I think its funny that my ex called me clingy...
brainygirl Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 She likes you, wants to be in contact with you. And probably doesn't realize how neurotic it seems. Just text her back and tell her you like her but you'd rather wait to have long conversations until the next time you go out . . . . and then schedule a date.
Green Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I told my gf not to txt me unless really necesary, it gets old real fast.
TPPpeter Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I have experienced this behavior before and that's coming from girls who are really insecure about themselves. When I did the same as you years back (few dates), the two girls got really into me and couldn't leave me alone. I then found out through mutual friends that one never dated a guy before (so I guess she was really excited) and the other didn't have many friends.
CuriousQDe Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I'm busy rt now. Call u l8r. (then call her later)
Author Pfiend101 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 I didn't mention facebook where I recently went on a trip. She comments on everything on my page shortly after something goes up. Its good to be interested in me but this is driving me nuts. Just now I told her my day didn't go so well and she sent me 8 long texts without me responding as I was taking a nap. I am not attracted to her physically. This is just not going to work. How do I let this poor girl down gently?
Author Pfiend101 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 I know she will be crushed but we are not in a relationship and I really have no desire to remain in contact with her whatsoever.
brainygirl Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I know she will be crushed but we are not in a relationship and I really have no desire to remain in contact with her whatsoever. Its kinder to tell her this than to lead her on. Not coming out and telling her you don't want anything with her is cowardly and mean.
Author Pfiend101 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 Shes such an avid texter would a text be appropriate. I dont have to do it in person do I?
brainygirl Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 Shes such an avid texter would a text be appropriate. I dont have to do it in person do I? At least call her
Author Pfiend101 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 (edited) I've never been on this end of the stick so to speak. I've only seen her in person twice for 30 minutes each time and I'm not in any sort of relationship with her and I should do it in person? It will embarrass her in public I think. Edited May 18, 2010 by Pfiend101
Cracker Jack Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 I also think you should at least call her and go from there. You don't have to do it in person, since you guys aren't in a relationship.
2sunny Posted May 18, 2010 Posted May 18, 2010 just tell her you are deleting her number because you have no time to correspond with her this much. then block her on FB too. people that over react like this are used to others ignoring their obsessive behavior... believe me - it won't come as a surprise to her. i have a friend like this - my contact now is SOOOO limited. she's compulsive, obsessive and constantly trailing any activity from anyone who will or won't pay attention. she even trails every move her Dad makes... and responds within seconds to any comment he makes on FB. her parents are my friends. even her parents now limit contact with her because it is so far out of balance it's frightening. an invasion of privacy is what it feels like.
Author Pfiend101 Posted May 18, 2010 Author Posted May 18, 2010 Just sent her a text then we talked on the phone. She seemed ok with it. She kept asking why why why why. So I told her she texted alot but that wasn't the only reason also that I wasn't drawn to her and didn't want to lead her on. That I didnt want to date her just because she was a nice girl just like I wouldn't want her to date me just because I was a nice guy. The physical attraction for me wasn't there but I didn't want to cut her self esteem. So there it is. I feel bad but at least I didn't string her along.
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