Author scatterd Posted May 15, 2010 Author Posted May 15, 2010 {Lies - I'm perfect. Perfectly happy...deceit.} I found this on face book my page this is who I beleive is the OW.I wrote no matter what you do you cant make another person happy that was before her what is that suppose to mean.Any Ideas?
califnan Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 {Lies - I'm perfect. Perfectly happy...deceit.} I found this on face book my page this is who I beleive is the OW.I wrote no matter what you do you cant make another person happy that was before her what is that suppose to mean.Any Ideas? ------------------- I don't understand it Scatterd. Is this a complete quote from her facebook page. It says "I wrote" ... Beginning with "Lies" - how much of this excerpt is yours - how much is hers ..
califnan Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 {Lies - I'm perfect. Perfectly happy...deceit.} I found this on face book my page this is who I beleive is the OW.I wrote no matter what you do you cant make another person happy that was before her what is that suppose to mean.Any Ideas? -------------------- Alright. I am finally understanding? The excerpt that was on her facebook page was: "Lies - I'm perfect. Perfectly happy...deceit." Is this correct?
2sunny Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 he can because YOU allow it. that is the ONLY reason... stop allowing it and things will change for YOU...
hopesndreams Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 {Lies - I'm perfect. Perfectly happy...deceit.} I found this on face book my page this is who I beleive is the OW.I wrote no matter what you do you cant make another person happy that was before her what is that suppose to mean.Any Ideas? It means block them on facebook. Do not go to their pages, ever! You are only hurting yourself more, deal with the past hurts and have no more future hurts, that you are allowing by not going NC.
Author scatterd Posted May 15, 2010 Author Posted May 15, 2010 Yes befriended me and is on my face book after I made the comment about you cant make someone happy she wrote that It seems odd that would be the comment after what I said.He said they were just friends I was wondering so allowed her.stupid me Its along story.He is coming here to take grandson to the movies he asked her to spend the night she does not want to be mean I don't blame her its her dad.What should I do how do I act.
hopesndreams Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Let your daughter deal with it. Don't be hanging about when he shows up. You have better things to do and it's not his business what you're doing, not anymore.
bittersweet memories Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Yes befriended me and is on my face book after I made the comment about you cant make someone happy she wrote that It seems odd that would be the comment after what I said.He said they were just friends I was wondering so allowed her.stupid me Its along story.He is coming here to take grandson to the movies he asked her to spend the night she does not want to be mean I don't blame her its her dad.What should I do how do I act. Avoid him as much as possible.. You daughter is an adult let her deal with her dad. Go NC and avoid, avoid avoid its best for you. You need to stick to it.
2sunny Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Yes befriended me and is on my face book after I made the comment about you cant make someone happy she wrote that It seems odd that would be the comment after what I said.He said they were just friends I was wondering so allowed her.stupid me Its along story.He is coming here to take grandson to the movies he asked her to spend the night she does not want to be mean I don't blame her its her dad.What should I do how do I act. block all of them on fb - and place all settings on private. stop any interaction with him - or anyone in his private world. allow your daughter to deal with him directly - stay away from any communication with him. time to take care of you. this includes having no communication with him.
califnan Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Yes. Don't correspond with them.. facebook, or otherwise. Does your grandson wish to spend the night? And, I agree with others. You have no need to make small talk with him, when he visits. .. Unless you wish to discuss the sale of the house, etc. For one reason or another he is acting Indifferent. You don't need to put yourself through that.
Author scatterd Posted May 15, 2010 Author Posted May 15, 2010 He wants to spend the nighy where I am at my daughters it brings me down when I see him but I am trying to act As you all said I am not functioning well that dam not in my gut and heart please go away.Thank you for supporting me you have been there evertime.Big hugs
califnan Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 He wants to spend the nighy where I am at my daughters it brings me down when I see him but I am trying to act As you all said I am not functioning well that dam not in my gut and heart please go away.Thank you for supporting me you have been there evertime.Big hugs --------------------- Sorry for my lack of comprehension (maybe, it Is uncomprehendable) .. Stay away from him. Find a flea market to go to - so you aren't even there in the morning ... whatever ..
2sunny Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 He wants to spend the nighy where I am at my daughters it brings me down when I see him but I am trying to act As you all said I am not functioning well that dam not in my gut and heart please go away.Thank you for supporting me you have been there evertime.Big hugs the simple answer to him about spending the night is NO... he can ask for anything he wants - YOU have the right to say no.
califnan Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 Scatterd, At this stage, his following you around - is a means of testing you, watching, comparing.. He is probably trying to be sure of his decision, one way or the other - or he is in confusion. STAY AWAY from him. You are his Wife - You Never have/had to be judged.
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