garth256 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 (edited) hi guys, I am very new to the site. I have a little problem with the ex wife. I will give a little bit of back ground info for you guys. We had been togther for some time, been happy had fun she was my best friend blah blah.... Then one i get home from work and she tells me, she no longer loves me and wants space to think. So fine i did what she asked, i moved out a lived (and still living) with my mum and dad. Anyway after a week she says she wants a divorce. We want over the old we can still be friends line Blah blah. The only time we talk is when we need to tell each other something, eg how do want me to pay back money i owe you. So time go'es on little text's here and there nothing major. But then she says "i need you to tell me when your out in town and or going out for the night, so we do'nt bump in to each other", I think fair one i can handle that, so when ever i need to going in to town for a long time or heading out for the night i let her know. But she would never let me know. Anyway time go'es on a little more and we send text's to each other, again nothing major, jest chit chat or "how are you" kind of thing. 7/10 times she text's me first . Right so its down to my question now, as I said we chit chat text nothing major once every two weeks maybe and as i said before 7/10 times she text's my first . In these text's she is nice ,carm,sometimes warm sometimes cold. On the whole there luke warm. A few days ago I was chating to a mate in a pub,(who is a friend of the ex as well), and he said "you do know she is slaging you off to everyone and she hates it when you text and she wants you to leave her alone" So my question is why is she saying this when she text's me first and why do'se she not tell me herself. Oh and i am almost over the brake up now,jest starting to get my self toghter again and no i do'nt want to get back with her. Edited May 12, 2010 by garth256
lvixen Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Reading this made me shake my head. First of all, you don't owe her a damn thing. It's none of her business where you will be going or what you are doing. Secondly, she is likely playing games with you. Next time she texts you and it isn't urgent (for example dividing your assets) ignore it. Don't text her either unless, again, it's really important. Her talking smack about you and then texting you with you responding only gives her the message that it's ok to do it. Teach her otherwise.
giovanniazael Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 In my opinion I think just because someone was your ex, you still owe them a certain amount of respect. If I were you, I wouldn't pay her any attention because obviously she is not giving you the proper respect that you deserve. She isn't being a "friend" either so there's no point. As a man looking to getting his life back together, the last thing you need is what has been handed to you. The friendship is obviously forced and will end up being a waste of time and I"m sure right now is not a good time to allow anything to come in the way of your progress. No matter what, it'll always affect you, so why put yourself through that. Do what you have to do to obtain something in this world because a man with nothing doesn't amount to NOTHING. Get yourself together to gain your independence and once that is obtained, you'll be able to embrace someone else in your life. Wish you nothing but the best!
Author garth256 Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 Thanks guys, Its what i was thinking jest nice to get a outside view on it. thanks again guys
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