Inlovewithgirl Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Hi! I met a girl last holidays in Spain. I saw that she was the perfect girl for me, I could feel it. But I didn't talk much to her at holidays, because I was to shy. My cousins and litte brother talk to her because they met her cousin who is the same age as they are. Now I'm back in my own country where she lives too and I asked her if she likes to do something fun and complained everything that I was shy on the vacation to talk with her. She agreed and wants me to come to her and chilling out together. After that she asked a cousin of me on chat or I like her. And she was irritating him so he said:that and I told the girl my feelings(on chat). She doesn't want a boyfriend at this time because her first crush broke up with her. She says It is not my fault. So I asked her or I still have to come(as a boy who likes her), but she still wants me to come to her and chilling out together and my cousin is coming too. I told her that I feel very strange If I come because I already told my feelings and didn't talk much with her on the holidays. She says that she has many boys who likes her and she hangs out with them too. She says: Can't we just be friends and chilling out together? I said: "Sure." Now I don't know or I have to come to her. I'm in Love with that girl. What should I do? come to her or not? (Sorry for my bad english, english is not my best subject).
Author Inlovewithgirl Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 listen to your heart! Man that answer is to easy, just be more obvious.
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 By all means go, but do not expect to have a relationship with her. She has already told you she does not want one, and that she hangs out with other guys. She asked you if you could not just be friends? That is three warnings to you.... This means: "I do not want a relationship with you, specifically, but I'm checking out a lot of different guys and maybe then I will want to hang out with one in particular. It may be you, or it may not be you. but don't count on anything, because you are not likely to be the one. "
Author Inlovewithgirl Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 (edited) By all means go, but do not expect to have a relationship with her. She has already told you she does not want one, and that she hangs out with other guys. She asked you if you could not just be friends? That is three warnings to you.... This means: "I do not want a relationship with you, specifically, but I'm checking out a lot of different guys and maybe then I will want to hang out with one in particular. It may be you, or it may not be you. but don't count on anything, because you are not likely to be the one. " Tyy this is a obvious answer...so If I understand we are just friends..and nothing more, right? (By the way, she is 14 years and I'm 16..hope she don't reads this by accident xD) Edited May 12, 2010 by Inlovewithgirl
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Really? Well, in that case, she is far too young to be thinking about a serious relationship with anyone. And to be honest, so are you. You're both young, and life is for living and enjoying. There's no point looking for anything intense at this moment. just have fun, laugh, live and be young. you're an adult a lot longer than you are a kid, so wait until that time to become intense. Right now? There is absolutely nothing wrong with NOT having a girlfriend. What you should be doing is just thanking your lucky stars that she is not messing you around. Be a good friend and don't worry about Love. That will come all too soon, and bring with it, its own set of problems. Why rush it?
Author Inlovewithgirl Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 Really? Well, in that case, she is far too young to be thinking about a serious relationship with anyone. And to be honest, so are you. You're both young, and life is for living and enjoying. There's no point looking for anything intense at this moment. just have fun, laugh, live and be young. you're an adult a lot longer than you are a kid, so wait until that time to become intense. Right now? There is absolutely nothing wrong with NOT having a girlfriend. What you should be doing is just thanking your lucky stars that she is not messing you around. Be a good friend and don't worry about Love. That will come all too soon, and bring with it, its own set of problems. Why rush it? Ahh thnx maybe I watch to much adult movies and programmes so I think like the adult persons..xD
Peaceful Guy Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Man that answer is to easy, just be more obvious. well, i think that there really is no RIGHT or WRONG answer here. soooo, this is a learning opportunity. you have to think about how you feel.. act based on that (do your best).. and then pay attention to the outcome and learn. my advice to someone your age in general is to take it easy, be cool, and let things happen at a comfortable pace. no need to rush into adulthood.. no need to overthink to the point of inaction. rarely do we know the absolute best thing to do.. and lots of times there is no one right answer.. so growing up and being healthy and mature is about making decisions that you'll be happy with regardless of the outcome. for instance, treating people well is a good decision.. even if they treat you like a jerk, you're still in the clear. personal choice and decisions are more about being yourself (and comfortable with it) than controlling the ultimate outcome of the situation.. and that's something lots of adults have yet to figure out. hope that helps!!!
Author Inlovewithgirl Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 well, i think that there really is no RIGHT or WRONG answer here. soooo, this is a learning opportunity. you have to think about how you feel.. act based on that (do your best).. and then pay attention to the outcome and learn. my advice to someone your age in general is to take it easy, be cool, and let things happen at a comfortable pace. no need to rush into adulthood.. no need to overthink to the point of inaction. rarely do we know the absolute best thing to do.. and lots of times there is no one right answer.. so growing up and being healthy and mature is about making decisions that you'll be happy with regardless of the outcome. for instance, treating people well is a good decision.. even if they treat you like a jerk, you're still in the clear. personal choice and decisions are more about being yourself (and comfortable with it) than controlling the ultimate outcome of the situation.. and that's something lots of adults have yet to figure out. hope that helps!!! Yup this helps too.. What you guys think is that I'm young and have to take my time. I should enjoy this age and not searching for a love...yeah maybe that is the option.
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